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This image doesn't belong to me – I was not able to find the original artist.

You can only find peace in an open mind.💙🪟

I was able to forgive. I need to forgive and let go.

Forgiveness- the other side of forgiveness is freedom.  The true purpose of forgiveness is to stop allowing whatever the other person did to effect how I live my life now.

Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could be any different. 

Forgive and set yourself free. Let it go.

Who have you not forgiven?  If you don't forgive your heart is block and you're the one hurting/suffering.  Where am I not forgiving. As long as my heart is open to love I am deflecting the miracle that is happening

Today I finally said good bye to my person, my best friend who will no longer be in my life. He has moved on and found someone new. I have been replaced. I no longer have my someone. I no longer matter in his life. I am no longer the woman in his life.

I forgive you. I forgive you. I will forgive all. I'm letting you go.

Good bye

Today is exactly a month since the situation happened. Also happens to be the 9th and a Tuesday as well. No communication from him, still cold silence. What did I expected? Respect, honesty, loyalty, decency between ex lovers and friends? Yes, I expected all of the above. That was my expectations. But I've learned you can imposed your expectations onto others because it always leads to disappointment.

Disappointed with how he chose to handle this situation. To handle our history and past together. He choose her over my feelings and my heart. Speaks volume about him and how he feels about me. There's a say:

How they treat you is how they feel about you. Don't try to decode or make excuses. It's simple. If they act like they don't care, they don't care.

Three plus years of being best friends and lovers gone in a moment. We are no longer friends nor are we enemies. We're just strangers who have memories of each other. This isn't how I wanted us to end. Can't change it. It happened and is happening.

Exactly to the date we broke up you've moved on. Moved on without saying goodbye to me. Just left.

Better to see your true character now than later.

daily reminder that; there is no true success without peace of mind!

peace of mind for purity 🧘🏾‍♀️

with love,

B 🫀

11/09/2023

truly ❤️‍🩹

It’s going okay

Objectively I have a great life: I am comfortable, loved, and have a job I enjoy. I am getting married. I am looking forward to the future.

Honestly all that is wonderful but it becomes part of a horrible spiral in my mind sometimes. I am not well. The anxious voices in my mind are debilitating at times. It’s better than it was, but it’s still there. And remembering how lucky I am should help but sometimes it just becomes guilt.

I am learning to accept that. I am feeling awful, and it is okay for me to feel awful, or is okay for me to lie down and cry even if there is nothing objectively wrong. My head is just a bad place to be at times.

It’s scarier to screw up something you’ve done a million times before than to screw up something new. Maybe that’s why I’ve been doing better lately. When stuff gets screwed up, it’s because I’m a baby adult who barely knows what to do. Because there’s still people saying “let me help you with that.” You’re new. Let me help carry the load. It makes some things easier. It makes standing on my own a little harder because I have trouble saying no.

I’m doing okay. I cried for half an hour tonight because I felt like my head was going to split open if I didn’t. I’m not even anxious about stuff, I’m just anxious.

I’m doing okay. I’ve got reassurance and safety and security. I’ve got someone to hold me when I cry.

Maybe some day I will be better. Maybe someday I won’t walk on eggshells in my own mind, won’t be scared of the little space between my ears where things get twisted til they’re unrecognizable.

Til then I’m doing okay. And that’s okay.

Embracing the Path of Healing: Moving On from Pain

Shaina Tranquilino

September 26, 2023

Life is an amalgamation of happiness and pain, joy and heartache. While some experiences bring us immense pleasure and fulfillment, others leave us broken, struggling to find solace amidst the fragments of our shattered hopes. However, it is essential to remember that pain does not define us; rather, it serves as a catalyst for growth and resilience. In this blog post, we will explore the transformative journey of moving on from pain and emerging stronger than ever.

1. Acknowledge the Pain:

The first step towards healing is acknowledging the pain you are going through. Denying or burying your emotions will only prolong the healing process. Acceptance allows you to confront your feelings head-on, enabling psychological and emotional growth.

2. Allow Yourself to Grieve:

Grieving is a natural response to loss or emotional distress. Give yourself permission to mourn over what was lost - be it a relationship, dream, or any other significant aspect of your life. Cry if you need to; let your emotions flow freely without judgment.

3. Seek Support:

Remember that you don't have to face your pain alone. Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or even professional counselors who can provide guidance and lend a listening ear during vulnerable moments. Surround yourself with positive influences who uplift and empower you throughout your healing journey.

4. Practice Self-Compassion:

Often, we harshly judge ourselves during tough times, adding unnecessary burdens to our already heavy hearts. Be kind and gentle with yourself by practicing self-compassion. Treat yourself with love, understanding that everyone stumbles along their path at some point in life.

5. Rediscover Your Identity:

Pain has an uncanny ability to overshadow our true selves. Use this opportunity for introspection and rediscovery; reconnect with activities or hobbies that bring joy into your life. Focus on personal growth and self-care, nurturing both your physical and emotional well-being.

6. Embrace Forgiveness:

Forgiveness is a powerful healing tool that frees us from the shackles of pain. Forgive those who have caused you harm, but most importantly, learn to forgive yourself. Understand that mistakes are part of being human and allow room for personal growth without carrying the weight of regret.

7. Set New Goals:

Moving on involves envisioning a new future filled with hope and purpose. Set meaningful goals that align with your values and aspirations. These objectives will not only motivate you but also serve as beacons of light guiding you towards a brighter tomorrow.

8. Cultivate Gratitude:

In moments of despair, it can be challenging to find gratitude amidst the chaos. However, consciously practicing gratitude can shift your perspective and empower you to see beauty in the simplest moments of life. Count your blessings daily, focusing on what brings happiness into your world.

Though moving on from pain may seem like an uphill battle, remember that healing is not linear. It requires patience, resilience, and self-compassion. By acknowledging your pain, seeking support, practicing self-care, rediscovering yourself, embracing forgiveness, setting new goals, and cultivating gratitude - you will emerge stronger than ever before. In time, wounds heal, hearts mend, and the scars we carry become beautiful reminders of our ability to persevere through adversity.

Honouring Our Loved Ones During the Holiday Season: Finding Comfort Amidst Grief

Shaina Tranquilino

December 1, 2023

December, with its twinkling lights and festive cheer, is undeniably a time of celebration and joy. However, for those who have lost loved ones, this season can also be a challenging period filled with memories that evoke grief and longing. While it may seem difficult to find solace in the midst of holiday festivities, there are meaningful ways we can remember and celebrate our departed loved ones during this time.

1. Embrace traditions: Traditions hold immense power in connecting us to the memories of our loved ones. Consider incorporating elements from their favourite activities or cherished rituals into your holiday celebrations. Whether it's preparing their signature dish, playing their preferred music, or setting up a memorial ornament on the tree, these small gestures help keep their spirit alive amidst the festivities.

2. Create a memory box or altar: Designating a space within your home as a tribute to your departed loved one can provide comfort and serve as a focal point for reflection. Collect photographs, letters, mementos, or any items that remind you of them and arrange them in a dedicated memory box or create an altar adorned with candles and flowers. Taking a moment each day to spend time at this special place allows you to honour their memory while finding solace during difficult moments.

3. Share stories: The holiday season often brings families together - an opportune time to share stories about your departed loved ones. Gather around and reminisce about happy times spent together. By recounting fond memories, not only are you keeping their legacy alive but also providing comfort to other family members who may be experiencing similar feelings of loss.

4. Light a candle in remembrance: Light has always symbolized hope and guidance throughout history. Lighting a candle in remembrance of your loved one can serve as a powerful act of remembrance during the holiday season. Set aside a specific time each day to light a candle in their honour, allowing the warm glow to fill your heart with love and gratitude for the memories you shared.

5. Engage in acts of service: Finding solace through acts of kindness can bring immense healing. Consider volunteering at a local shelter, donating to a cause they cared about, or simply extending a helping hand to someone in need. By channelling our grief into something positive, we not only honour our loved ones but also find purpose and meaning during this challenging time.

6. Seek support: It is essential to remember that grieving during the holiday season is entirely normal and valid. Reach out to friends, family members, or support groups who understand what you are going through. Sharing your feelings and experiences with others who have experienced similar loss can provide immense comfort and validation as you navigate this difficult period together.

While December may be challenging for those grieving the loss of loved ones, it's important to remember that honouring their memory can coexist alongside the holiday festivities. Embracing traditions, creating personal tributes, sharing stories, lighting candles, engaging in acts of service, and seeking support are all ways we can celebrate and remember our departed loved ones during this special season. By finding solace amidst grief, we can ensure that their spirit lives on within us as we move forward into the new year.