Love Your Life - Tumblr Posts
I wear makeup because I. LIKE. IT. I like how I look in it, makes me feel pretty. Do I wear it everyday? No. Its mostly just when I feel like changing things up in my makeup-free day-to-day. I mean I live in Florida, I sweat like a pig from dawn to dusk, it’s the mother licking SUNSHINE state.
Yeah, I like food. And not too much of what’s made at home is fat-free. Chimichangas, tamales, arepas, buñuelos, empanadas. I live in a Mexican/Colombian household that LOVES their regional foods. Plus, as a collage student, the fast foods are the easiest to find around campus during lunch time. So yes, I’ve got some curve to my middle. Still got boys who are sweet on me to make me feel good about myself.
I am not short. I AM FUN-SIZED! Besides, being so *ehem* “compact“ is what earned me my nickname Chibi in high school. I love it, as those who find me all over the web can tell.
Got no boobs compared to my D-cup mother. I can sleep on my tummy. I can go for a jog without two or three sports bras. She can’t, and I rub it in daily.
I am HAPPY with the bod nature/God/the universe gave me. So you who has complaints? IT’S NOT YOUR BODY TO HATE ON - IT’S MINE
Being a woman is hard af.
No boobs? Damn. Grow some. Boobs? Cover yourself. You’re so vulgar. No ass? Everyone will laugh at you for it. Ass? Well, better cover yourself cause you don’t wanna draw attention to that booty, right? Short? You need to wear those heels. Tall? Damn. You cannot be taller than men. Also, never wear heels. Skinny? Gotta gain weigh cause no one likes bones. Chubby? Eat healthy!!!! Nobody likes fat bitches. You like makeup? Hell no. Taking you swimming on the first date. No makeup? Please, take care of yourself. Don’t be so lazy.
We, women, are constantly shamed for everything so we, as well, might do whatever we want.
This is some fantastic advice. IGNORE & TRASH the negatives, here as in Real Life. Make it so!
DIE REBEL SCUM!
Let me start by saying that I have never sent, nor received anon hate in the 2+ years I have been on tumblr. (I sent this message to myself.)
But it seems like in the past few months there has been a lot of hate going around. I don’t understand anon hate, if you want to criticize someone, at least have the respect to put your name on it. And just don’t hate- anyone. It’s not worth the time or effort.
Of course, telling people not to hate, not to send hate is just a waste of time. Those people are not going to be swayed by me.
So, instead I have another idea.
DO NOT REPLY TO HATE. Don’t give anon hate a voice. Haters only feel empowered when you post their vitriol.
Here’s what you can do instead.
IGNORE. Clicking this button means this person, anon or not, can never send you hate again.
TRASH. Delete the message and carry on.
REPLY. Nope, don’t do it.
You can also go into your blog settings and turn off anon. You can still receive asks, but not anons. Followers will still be able to send you fanmail as well, if they don’t want their questions posted to your blog.
Let’s end anon hate by refusing to participate. Don’t send anon hate. Don’t reply, don’t engage.
I love you all, I love tumblr, I love being part of this community, and anon hate hurts everyone. Let’s just stop the cycle.
Time passes. Memories fade. Feelings change. People leave. But hearts never forget.
Time passes. Memories fade. Feelings change. People leave. But hearts never forget.
Time passes. Memories fade. Feelings change. People leave. But hearts never forget.
be aware of what you consume:
the energy of others: surround yourself with positive people and avoid those who drain you.
the videos you watch: select content that inspires, educates or entertains you in a healthy way.
what you read: look for reliable sources and material that enriches you intellectually.
who you follow: follow people who inspire and challenge you to grow.
what you scroll through on social media: avoid negative content and look for something that motivates you or makes you feel good.
the news: look for objective sources of information and avoid information overload.
highlights of others: compare less and celebrate more the achievements of others.
the advice you listen to: evaluate advice according to your criteria and needs.
source: @zamirasaba
How to Add Hints of *Luxury* in Your Everyday Routine Using Your 5 Senses
Here are some ways to add hints of luxury into your everyday routine, for a touch of indulgence without breaking the bank:
Sight:
Fresh flowers: A small bud vase with a single bloom or a mini bouquet of seasonal flowers brightens any space.
Candlelight: Swap harsh overhead lighting for candles in the evening. Opt for natural soy wax and calming scents like lavender or vanilla.
Declutter and decorate: Tidy up your surroundings and add a touch of beauty with a framed picture, a decorative throw pillow, or a scented candle.
Smell:
Signature scent: Apply a touch of your favorite perfume to your pulse points in the morning for a confidence boost.
Natural air freshener: Simmer a pot of water with citrus peels or herbs like rosemary for a natural and uplifting scent in your home.
Scented sachets: Tuck fragrant sachets filled with lavender or rose petals into your lingerie drawers or clothes closet.
Touch:
Luxe towels: Invest in a set of plush towels for a spa-like experience after showering or bathing.
Silk scarf: Tie a silk scarf around your neck or wear it in your hair for a touch of elegance.
Comfy slippers: Upgrade your footwear at home with a pair of soft slippers or house shoes.
Taste:
Homemade infused water: Add slices of cucumber, lemon, or berries to your water pitcher for a refreshing and flavorful drink.
High-quality coffee or tea: Invest in a bag of specialty coffee beans or loose-leaf tea for a more enjoyable morning or afternoon pick-me-up.
Multi-sensory experience: Combine taste with other senses to create a more immersive experience. Play calming music while you eat, light a scented candle, or arrange your food on a beautiful tray.
Sound:
Uplifting playlist: Create a playlist filled with calming music or nature sounds that help you relax and de-stress.
Listen to audiobooks: Immerse yourself in a captivating story by listening to audiobooks while commuting or doing chores.
Focus on the soundscape: Pay attention to the sounds around you – birds chirping, rain falling, or gentle music – and appreciate the beauty of everyday acoustics.
Bonus Tip:
Mindfulness: Take a few minutes each day to be present in the moment and savor the simple pleasures. This can be anything from enjoying a delicious cup of tea to feeling the soft texture of your favorite blanket.
By incorporating these small touches, you can elevate your everyday routine and create a more luxurious and enjoyable experience. Remember, luxury isn't just about expensive things, it's about creating a sense of peace, comfort, and beauty in your daily life.
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How to bring *luxury* into your life while on a budget
Luxury on a budget is absolutely achievable! It's about focusing on creating an experience of indulgence and pampering, rather than just expensive things. Here are some ideas:
Redefine Luxury for You:
Focus on Experiences: Luxury isn't just material possessions. Think about what makes you feel truly pampered and relaxed. Is it a long, candlelit bath with a good book? A picnic in a scenic spot? Prioritize experiences that create lasting memories.
Quality over Quantity: Invest in a few key items you'll love and use for years, rather than buying a lot of cheap things. This could be anything from a luxurious body lotion to a cozy throw blanket.
Create a Luxurious Atmosphere at Home:
Declutter and Deep Clean: A clean and organized space instantly feels more luxurious. Light some scented candles, put on some calming music, and dim the lights for a spa-like atmosphere.
DIY Spa Treatments: Skip the expensive spa and recreate the experience at home. Give yourself a foot massage with homemade sugar scrub, use a facial mask made with natural ingredients, or draw a relaxing bath with essential oils.
Elevate Everyday Activities: Take the time to savor a cup of tea in the morning. Set the table for dinner with nice plates and silverware, even if it's just a simple meal.
Seek Out Free or Low-Cost Luxuries:
Embrace Nature: Take a hike in a beautiful park, have a picnic by the beach, or simply sit outside and enjoy the fresh air. Nature is a free and luxurious way to de-stress and reconnect.
Cultural Gems: Many museums and galleries offer free or discounted admission days. Check your local library for free museum passes or online resources for virtual tours of famous collections.
Learn a New Skill: Taking a free online class in something that interests you, like photography or cooking, can be a stimulating and luxurious way to spend your time.
Remember: Luxury is about feeling good and taking care of yourself. By being creative and resourceful, you can incorporate these elements into your life, regardless of your budget.
What Makes You Feminine? It's Not What You Think
Femininity is a complex and personal way of expressing yourself, not a set of rules.
Not feminine:
Soft voice: Confidence and strength can come in all volumes.
Pink: Color preferences are personal, and femininity isn't limited by a color palette.
Frilly skirts: Style is a great way to express yourself, but femininity isn't defined by one clothing style.
Is feminine:
Play: Having fun and embracing joy in whatever way that looks like in the moment.
Individuality: Being yourself, whatever that means to you, is the essence of femininity.
Self-assurance: Owning your abilities and feeling confident in your own skin makes you magnetic and attractive to what is meant for you.
Ultimately, femininity is about embracing the qualities that make you, you. It can be strong, gentle, playful, serious, creative, or any combination you choose.
Have a lifelong love affair with yourself. Seduce yourself with high standards. Set goals. Stay true to your values. Remain intoxicated with your intentions and the woman staring back at you in the mirror.
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Lately: been sick as a dog. I hate the flu.
With that being said, I also recently blew up my entire life….in a good way ;)
I have dreamed of settling down in the PNW my entire life. And no, not because I read twilight. My soul has felt at home in the moody gray, the greenery, the culture. I had plans to do so in the next two years. But life happens (as it does) and now I’m moving in 4 weeks!! Holy shit. It feels surreal.
Do I feel like this is a totally bonkers idea? Maybe. Probably. But I don’t care because everything in me is screaming “hell yes” towards this opportunity.
It’s a big change but I feel grateful because I don’t have an urge to drink or use (wild). It’s stress, but the good kind lol.
They say don’t make any major life changes your first year in recovery….but I’ve never been good at listening anyway.
I turn 30 next year. I’m new in recovery, a newlywed, no house or real assets, barely a retirement savings, no kids (except my dog is my child and you can’t convince me otherwise), a little money in the bank, unemployed (making a career change nonetheless), and jumping into this wild change, headfirst. This is not how I pictured 30 haha.
But something I’ve come to admire about myself is my resilience. If I have ever been unhappy with my situation or desired something - I have set my sights on it and fixed/gotten it. Maybe I did it the hard way and maybe I’m (often) too stubborn to listen to advice, but I did it. No looking back. A pro of being selfish. I have never been afraid to take a bold risk, to dare greatly.
Age is just a number baby! Unless it’s less than 18.
I’ve struggled to connect with my greater She lately - once again, I’m trying to control every aspect of my life. To race against some perceived idea that I’m running out of time. That I have wasted all this time with my issues. That I’m behind.
Maybe that’s why I’m sick? If signs are real, I’ll take this as one that I need to SLOW tf down and surrender.
A friend recently told me “it sounds like you are building recovery around your life when you should be building your life around recovery”. It got me thinking. It made me pause….she’s so right. I think it’s an easy trap to fall into. Once things are good, I just race to the next thing. My foundation is fragile right now. What I do, my attitude - it determines my perspective. It sets a precedent moving forward.
I want to let go of the old me: insecure, approval seeking, people pleasing, melancholy, secretive, controlling, perfectionist. I welcome the new me who sees challenges as an adventure, who is kind not only to others but most importantly, to herself. Who lives a fulfilling life and finds joy in the stillness of every day. Who isn’t afraid to chase her dreams. Who trusts in her own capabilities. Who says fuck the haters (lol, but literally).
I am the woman in the arena. Forever.
I needed that reminder.
So yeah, big move but I am so ready. It feels like a fresh start. Also the little kid in me is like “omg eeeeee!!!!!! Check, life dream accomplished”. Energy is on overload lol.
I’m in a good headspace and at a point in my life where I’m comfortable with who I am. I’m not chasing what’s not meant for me. I’m releasing my shame. I’m learning to forgive myself. I’m staying present. I am becoming proud of the person I was / the person I am.
It’s never too late to start over. Everything can be fun, it’s all dependent on perspective. I welcome the next few months and all the adventures ahead!!!
I have faith in my intuition - my greater She. She has led me here.
Each day, a little better and brighter.
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My family thinks I’m absolutely nuts. They’re constantly whispering to younger cousins “don’t copy her” and “she’ll always be the wild one, never thinking”. I was desperate to fit in but I never really did. And now I’m out here wondering why the hell I ever wanted to in the first place.
Blood is thicker than water, but water has the power to dilute the strength of blood.
True, I can be reckless and impulsive. If I want something, I have to have it. I am selfish and persistent in my pursuit. Whether or not it’s good for me is another story. I’m stubborn and sensitive, sometimes blindly optimistic.
But frankly, if we spend time waiting for the perfect moment….it’ll never come. No matter how much we plan and prepare, there are always uncertainties.
I believe we have to create opportunities for ourselves. I don’t want to wait around and wonder, I want to know. If I fail (is anything really a failure or just a redirection?), then I have more information than I started with. Something was still gained.
Some caution is a good thing. However, awareness + acceptance always > caution.
It’s not about succeeding - it’s about trying. It’s about having faith, trusting that things are always working out in your favor. Reflection and introspection, then continuing to move forward. Everything is a lesson, to teach us more about ourselves.
At the end of my life, I want to be able to say I lived a full one. That I didn’t hold back out of fear. That I didn’t succumb to being a victim of circumstance, I didn’t stay complacent within the status quo. I don’t want there to be any “what-ifs”. I want to be able to say that it all had to happen this way. That I understand the meaning of my story.
That I loved fiercely and passionately. That I didn’t allow the injustices of the world to harden me. That I used my pain for good, turned it into hope. That I continued to strive for better, that I never gave up.
That I didn’t do it perfectly, but I did it with compassion, self-respect, and grace. That I confidently pursued my dreams and I humbly acknowledged my mistakes. That my experiences shaped me, they didn’t just happen to me.
At the end, I want to say that I know who I am and what I stand for. That in my life, I made the most of it to become the truest version of myself.
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Lately I’ve been feeling a sense of peace within myself. It’s really nice but I can’t help but wonder when it will go away and I’ll be back to the me as I’ve always known myself: melancholy, aloof, insecure, anxious…
But what if it stays?
Been trying this new thing where I trust my intuition (my greater She) in how I behave, the decisions I make, the things I say. I’m starting to trust in myself to choose the right thing over what’s easy or simply status quo.
I have faith that if one door closes, a window will open. Because it always does.
While I don’t have it all figured out yet, not even close, I’m trying to relish each present moment - the joy of figuring it out.
Happiness is a choice, it’s a mentality.
Not to downplay my own struggles or past regrets/mistakes - but I have a lot to be proud of. I’m not perfect by any means but that is okay too. Because I continue to try, be open minded, stay unassuming, learn and challenge myself. I don’t give up on myself.
Even if I think I am, I’m not. Because I’m still here and I’m still taking on the next day.
Does this mean I’m a good person? Or does this mean I am just human, with all the complexities.
A big thing I noticed is that black or white thinking. I’ve had a hard time forgiving myself for anything really….because it didn’t jive with me “being a good person” or “being worthy”. I couldn’t be one without the other.
But then I’d forgive others in a heartbeat. Second chances? More like 3, 4, to infinity. Because I believe in the power of people changing. I’ve been trying to view myself as how I’d view someone else. I’m much kinder to others than I am to me.
Like I have it all ass backwards haha.
Now I realize that I have to cheer myself on. No one else will do it for me. And if I don’t, I’ll never get anywhere because I’ll always be too scared.
So if anyone is reading this, do what you need to let it all go. The expectations of what “should be”or how you “should be”. Scream in the car, delete that person from your friend list, go on a road trip by yourself, write affirmations on sticky notes and post them everywhere, cry your heart out, listen to your favorite song on repeat, throw yourself into your favorite hobby or start a new one, write all your worries on a piece of paper and burn it, break some shit then break some more shit, journal all your feelings on a random tumblr blog (haha), do something that scares you, make conversation with a stranger….I don’t know - just do something! Anything.
If it doesn’t work, do it again. And again. And again. Until it does.
Don’t worry if you look stupid or silly or uncool doing it. Do it for you. Forgive yourself for it all. You were and still are doing the best you could.
And don’t laugh at me when I say that because I used to make fun of all the people on social media who would say “X and X” solved all my problems and now I’m just this happy little leprechaun finding rainbows and gold everywhere. It’s not that simple but it also is.
Way easier said than done am I right *rolls eyes*
Know that you don’t have to have all the answers and you sure as hell don’t need to be perfect.
You are the one who writes your story so you get to decide who the main character is. Who you are. Who do you want to be?
As I’ve been healing, slowly but surely, people have fallen off. It really sucks to lose people. But the right ones have stayed & our relationships are so much sweeter and truer.
As I’ve accepted what I can do and what I can’t do, it’s been so freeing to feel like I’m not disappointing the world.
One day it will work. And then life will feel like magic.
Because lately, the thought that crosses my mind is: this is what it was meant to feel like all along.
today, my gratitude is measured by:
i texted a good handful of people in my life a link to the tortilla challenge video saying “let’s do this” and they all replied “yes, absolutely”
may my life always be full of laughs and people who enjoy them.
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I’m really proud of myself lately.
have not called in sick to work because of depression - haven’t needed to! It is SO nice to have a job that doesn’t make me die inside a little every day and fill me with dread.
gotten up every morning and taken my dog out
been trying some “biohacking” for my energy levels - Vitamin D, B12, waiting before screen time in the AM, light exposure & cold exposure. Maybe some of it is total bologna but hey, at least I’m problem solving
on that note, feeling motivated to try new things and take care of myself
was sick but I made myself rest & didn’t beat myself up about a “lack of productivity”
haven’t been bingeing on sugar (except last night because it was vday, sue me)
have been drinking water
have NOT been drinking alcohol! yay me, day 11 round 2.
have been going to bed consistently at 10pm
have been able to talk myself out of negative ruminating thoughts
I haven’t been taking my ADHD meds and I have significantly less anxiety. Though I am back to my wee little space cadet ways. But I’ll take the absentmindedness over the constantly worrying or tightness in my chest.
However, still taking my ssri & it really does make a world of difference for me
I have health insurance! And a consistent paycheck!!!
have caught up & made things right with a good friend
am applying to esthetician school!!
can i just say my skin has been GIVING lately. I am feelin’ myself.
it’s not that serious, seriously
also not shopping impulsively - like actually being frugal….me? Ok but yesterday I did find a cute top at aritzia on MEGA sale. Rules are bendy, don’t tell my husand
eating my veggies like the good little rabbit I am
have been getting ready every day
can actually visualize my future/long term goals (well a year out)
actually using my planner again
excited to hit some goals??? WHO AM I
content with who I am & trusting in how I show up
slooowwwly, but surely - releasing expectation of perfection from myself.
slooowwwly, but surely - accepting, forgiving and embracing every part of me
love my human & my dog & my people
2024 is my year or at least I’m determined to make it so because I am tired of being sad and disappointed and depressed and unconfident scared and melancholy and apathetic.
I want a life that brings me joy so this is the year I finally achieve that.
I believe I can! Each day, a little better & brighter :)
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In a weird place lately, but a good one. It just feels uncomfortable - kind of like getting a new pair of shoes and waiting for them to fully break in. Or wearing a t-shirt that doesn’t quite fit.
I’m doing really well lately. Ok, honestly I feel like “doing well” has a lot of room for interpretation. But as far as my mind and heart go - I’m doing just fine.
Because I don’t hate myself anymore. And this is everything.
So I’m not exactly where I want to be yet. So what? I am enjoying where I am at.
So people (in my life or not even in my life) don’t exactly approve or understand my life choices. All good - it’s my life, not theirs
I took 5+ grams of shrooms and found myself. Okay that sounds absolutely bonkers when I re-read that but it’s true.
I’ve had some alcohol since that time and I feel completely different drinking. Like I didn’t want to create chaos or hurt the people I love - HELLO WIN! Also, I don’t actually like the way alcohol makes me feel anymore but I acknowledge and recognize when I drink, I am indulging the old me.
Beyond that, I’ve just felt so settled. Whatever happens, I trust in my ability to find a way through. I am the woman in the arena, I am a survivor and I am resilient.
Some of the thought patterns that used to plague me, don’t as much anymore. It’s strange.
I turned 30 and decided now or never.
I think it also goes without saying - but living a life that you enjoy, that brings you peace and security…..wow it changes the game. I try so hard to have sympathy/empathy for those who feel stuck or unhappy.
But if you’re not going to do anything about it, I can’t fucking help you. Because even when shit has been as bad as it has, maybe I wallow sure - BUT I FIND A WAY THROUGH.
What’s crazy to me is this overwhelming sense of gratitude I feel. I feel present in my body.
Okay so still struggling with weed (because like who isn’t, when alcohol is so 1990) but lately I’ll put the damn bong down and eat a meal or take a nap/rest.
A year ago…..I would have died with the bong in my hand.
I haven’t felt as called to write. My thoughts have felt really jumbled and I’ve been really content to just “be” without needing to overanalyze it all.
Ok I always say that I need to get over this concept of “one day everything is going to magically be better”.
But………….everything has become magically better.
I scrolled back to my original posts first out of the hospital and I don’t recognize that woman. I want to hug her and tell her I’m proud of her. That so many people don’t have the courage to look their truth in the face and accept it, but she did. And she continues to.
I want her to know that I believe in her with all my heart. She can do this. She will do this. She will break the cycle and she will achieve the recurring dream of sitting on her deck in the backyard she owns, recounting how she made it through.
She will. And I will. I am!
