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Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, surrounded by assholes.

To bring about change, you must not be afraid to take the first step. We will fail when we fail to try.

Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.

However many holy words you read, however many you speak, what good will they do you if you do not act on upon them?

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.

What a wonderful thought it is that some of the best days of our lives haven't even happened yet.

Perhaps when we find ourselves wanting everything, it is because we are dangerously close to wanting nothing.

It is not our differences that divide us.

It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences.

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- #inspirational #audrelorde #quotes #poetry #relatablequotes #deepquotes #heartfeltquotes #positivethoughts #relationship

Fairy tales are more than true: not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten.

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own.

And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who'll decide where to go..

There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.

"Anger is the part of yourself that loves you the most. It knows when you are being mistreated, neglected, disrespected. It signals that you have to take a step out of a place that doesn't do you justice. It makes you aware that you need to leave a room, a job, a relationship, old patterns that don't work for you anymore. Learn to listen to your anger and make it your best friend. Then it'll leave." And that stuck with me forever.

The kindest people are not born that way, they are made. They are the souls that have experienced much at the hands of life. They are the ones who have dug themselves out of the dark, who have fought to turn every loss into a lesson. The kindest people do not just exist. They choose to soften where circumstances have tried to harden them.

They choose to believe in goodness, because they have seen firsthand why compassion is so necessary. They have seen firsthand why tenderness is so important in this world.

We spend so much time and energy trying to control other people and get emotionally affected trying to decipher their behaviors, failing to realize we have no control over them.

We were not put on this earth to control other people's actions. It's not your job to analyze people's behaviors and jump into conclusions about why they're doing what they're doing. The truth is, you'll never truly know. This is where the "let them theory" comes in. A situationship doesn't wanna commit? Let them. Someone is excluding you? Let them. Someone ghosted you? Let them. Not only is this so emotionally freeing, but it also allows people to show their true colors, and that is invaluable. You are then able to make better choices about the people you want to keep in your life.

There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not my nature. -Jane Austen

You can't build a relationship with someone who is attracted to your absence

who recognizes the value of your presence only when they start to miss it, who disappears without a word and reappears as they please, who is incapable of respectful communication: pulls away, stonewalls, or ghosts instead of stating their needs clearly, whose emotional unavailability locks them in their shell and prevents them from forming deeper bonds, who only shares with you pieces of themselves; who is only interested in pieces of you.

A relationship is built with intentional effort -it is a choice that translates into reality when it is consistently repeated, regardless of how easy or difficult it gets.

You can only build a relationship with someone who is committed to the process.

i think even a thousand stars smiling down at you will not get you rid of the grief you've rubbed on me and i think inspite of pretending otherwise, you will incessantly be guilty of it. that's the thing about you. that is why i was drawn to you in the first place. maybe you're not inherently a bad person and maybe this shade of grief on you has emerged as a result of my shade of grief being rubbed on you. or maybe we are too similar than i'd like to admit. maybe you are my mirror. this insurmountable grief on you, is maybe just a reflection of mine.

Another day, another f*cking problem Jesus Christ 💀💀💀

Yet another AO3 bot situation - please spread the word!

Hi, it's me again, the person who wrote that viral post about fanfiction plagiarism! Today I'm here to warn you about abuse perpetrated by bots who have stolen AO3 usernames.

There's currently an epidemic of bots going around leaving (apparently random) horrible, hateful comments on people's fics. This isn't the first time bots have invaded AO3, but the big problem with this wave is that they're using real AO3 usernames to do it.

I learned about this when another writer contacted me after receiving the following comment on their story:

Now, while that is my username, I DEFINITELY did not leave this comment (and anyone who would leave something like that on a fic should be slapped! What an awful thing to post). This fic is in a completely unrelated fandom that I have never participated in, nor has that author participated in any of my fandoms, so the probability of it being some intentional fandom drama thing to make me look bad is also low.

The writer whose fic the comment was left on enlisted the aid of some friends and tracked down other guest comments with unrelated usernames attached, which is pretty strong evidence that they are being left by bots at random.

The TL;DR: If you receive a cruel comment from a (Guest) with an actual AO3 username attached, it's most likely from a bot. Please do not lash out at or dogpile the AO3 user who owns that name, and who in all likelihood has no idea that their name has been hijacked for evil.

If finding this kind of comment on a fic, even left by a bot, is likely to upset you, I would recommend changing your comment settings so that only users who are logged in can leave comments. To do this, edit your story settings, and under "Privacy," select the radio button that says "Only registered users can comment," as shown below.

Please spread the word to other AO3 users! And if you see mean guest comments on other fics, maybe let the author know that it's probably from a bot and not a real person who thinks their writing is bad.

Okay so spicy rant because I keep seeing stuff over here and in fandoms and I need to say something 💀

You know what REALLY grinds my gears? People who take it upon themselves to discourage writers, whether they're experienced authors or roleplayers just trying to have some fun. What is it with these self-appointed gatekeepers who think it's their sacred duty to trash anyone else's creative efforts? It's like they've got nothing better to do than sit on their high horses, casting judgment on everything they see, never lifting their pinkies to do anything.

First off: these so-called "critics" who love to bash writing prompts. "This again?" "This prompt is so cliché" Oh, excuse me for daring to use a prompt that’s been around the block a few dang times. Newsflash: originality isn't about finding a prompt no one's ever heard of. It's about what you do with it. If a writer finds inspiration in something that sparks their creativity, who are you to sneer at it? Just because you think it's been "overused" doesn't mean it can't produce something unique and worthwhile.

Guess what, genius? Every single story, from the dawn of storytelling, builds on something that came before. There are no new ideas, only new ways of telling them. If someone wants to write yet another vampire romance or a dystopian saga, let them! The coffeeshop AU with the bartender falling in love with the client? Let's go! The tensed enemies to lovers finally getting on with it? Awesome!! The magic is in the execution, not the premise.

But no, these critics have to swoop in with their unsolicited opinions, acting like they're the arbiters of taste. "Oh, that’s so cliché" "Really? Another story about a lost princess? Who cares?" Listen Linda, if you don’t like it, don’t fucking read it. It’s that simple. You don’t have to ruin someone else’s enthusiasm just because it doesn’t match your narrow definition of what’s acceptable. No-freaking-one is forcing you to read it.

These detractors love to throw around the word "cringe" like it’s some ultimate verdict. Well, what’s truly cringe-worthy is your need to belittle others to feel superior. It’s pathetic. There’s nothing cool or insightful about discouraging someone from pursuing their passion. If anything, it shows a profound lack of empathy, imagination, kindness and just basic decency on your part.

And let's not forget the classic line: "You should be writing something more serious." Oh, should I now? And who made you the judge of what's serious or worthwhile? Writing isn't a one-size-fits-all endeavor, never has been. Some people write for fun, some for catharsis, some to explore their own minds, some to fix the ending of a series, and some to entertain. Every piece of writing has value to the person who wrote it, and often to many others as well.

I just have 6 words to say. Get off your damn high horse. If you can’t offer constructive criticism or, heaven forbid, encouragement, maybe it’s time to keep your opinions to yourself. Writers don’t need your negativity. They need support, constructive feedback, and the freedom to explore their creativity without the fear of being mocked or belittled. If you don't like the prompts, the characters, cool that's your stuff and taste. Doesn't mean you have to be mean about it. You can scroll, block, filter and so on.

In the end, the joke's on you. While you're busy being a critic without a cause, those writers you're so eager to dismiss are actually creating something. They’re putting themselves out there, taking risks, and growing in ways you’ll never understand. And they're brave for doing so. Can't say the same about you. So who’s really cringing now?

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