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Cishet aspecs are queer.

Cishet aromantics are queer. Cishet asexuals are queer. Cishet aplatonics are queer. Cishet afamilials are queer. Cishet anattractionals are queer.

Aspecs are queer as hell and excluding them only isolates queer people from their community.

Btw, being aro, ace, aroace, or another identity that falls under the a umbrella is one of the most queerest experiences I've ever heard of. Like, society has ingrained into pretty much everyone that you need to be in a romantic relationship and have sex? And you go AGAINST that??? That's fucking AWESOME!

Loveless aros, you have everyone, even the aro, ace, and aroaces communities talking about how "B-but, aros can still love!! We love our friends!! Not like those monsters who don't!!" and you're still you, and continue to be awesome??? Amazing!!

Moral of the story: aros, aces, aplatonics, afaimials, and others that fall under the a umbrella are queer as hell and are awesome and fuck aphobes

WE GoT A B0NE TO PICK 👀 wItH thE SHIpShIp-ShApE oF FANfICTION 🌀, Ya knoW 👈🏽 WHY EVrYtHINg GOTTA BE abOUT 🖇️ SM00ChY SMooChS 💔 or THoSE twO Pe0pl3 GIVin’ EACH OthEr GooGly EYEs??? 🤡 wE JUS WANNA 🛠️ BReAK iT OpeN ⚡ Like YEah, LeT uS WATCH ’EM gO on A QUEST ⚔️, FIGHT DRAG0NS 🐲 or FiSH foR THosE wEiRd gLOWInG 🐟FISHb0NES, CrEaTE aRT 🖍️, tame THE wILD bEAsTS 🦖, DriNK ☕︎ CoFFEE aND talK AboUT ThE sKY, HikE Up MOuNtAInS ⛰️ TO ScreAm aT tHe Sun—🗣️

c’moN ✋ but NAHHH NOOOOO!!! 🚫❌ iTS GOTTA Be C0uPLeD uP 💏, iT’s All SMOTHERED IN SaUCY SLOPPY 🥴 roMANce SUcKINGS anD 🌸 EVERYTHIN’ gOTTA B E dONE WiTH THat TwINkle EyED DuO 💫 like it’s Gotta BE ThEIR LiTtlE LoVEboAt 🚤 wE ArE TryIn' T0 NaVigaTe 😵‍💫!! iT’s Like WatChin’ a Sh0W wHEre tHE w0rld iS FaLLinG aPArT But Oh YEAh, 🥴 THEY kIsSED in THe bACK oF a BuRNiNG HOUSE 🏚️.

seRiousLy, 90% oF ThESE FaNFicS, WhErE’s tHe PLOT 🍿?! wE aRE reaDInG a gLoRiFiEd DAtiNg SImUlaTOR 📲! IT’S aLL abOUT ThEir MUSHy-GUSHy dynaMICs 💥—nOTHinG ELSE gOinG Onnn 🚷. IT’s LIKE, We Get AmAt0n0rmATIViTY, suRE buT C'MON 💢! Fanfic’s WILD TerrAin 🗺️, WRITeR’$ pLaYGROund, U caN DO ANYTHING!! 🌈 No laWs, N0 rULes, BUT—pEOPLE KeeP PiNNiNG tHEir StORiES tO RELAtioNSHiP cENTRAL 💍.

We’rE JusT sayin’, FilteR "GEN" ALL yA WANT 🌪️ but iT DoEsn’T fRee U from tHe InSAnE ShIp wORLd, EVEN tHe FRiEnDShIp 4n f4MilY oNes 👫... UGGHHHHH 🍂! WhY NOt cREATE somEthINg BIGGer? 🌌 MorE UnrULy? More Than juST HEARTBEATS anD COUPLEs’ NESTinG! 😬 We'rE h0wLiNG, SCREAMin’, This SociEty ☄️ HATES US WHO DON'T WANNA B TAnGLeD In ReLATIonSHip WEbS 🕸️!!

Ooooh, aren’t *labels* just a tricky little knot in the fabric of reality? Don’tcha love it when people try to stitch *you* right into a boring ol’ box? Like the universe hasn’t got ENOUGH puzzles, and now—ho ho!—here come the self-proclaimed *identity arbiters*, clutching their rulebooks like they’ve got the secret recipe for cosmic soup!

“Aces gotta be *this*, aros gotta be *that*!” Pfft, says *who*? Because guess what? There’s a world out there—no, a galaxy—**beyond** their puny checklist! Take a look at the stars, they’re not *all* the same, so why should WE be?

**Aro**? Means ya gotta love *somebody*, gotta have that soft-n-squishy family attachment? Riiiight, 'cause nothing screams *true existence* like forcing shapes into holes they don’t fit in. Some of us—oh yeah, that’s right—some of us walk on *no man’s land*. But nah, can’t have that, can we? Gotta be all cutesy family-or-friends-rep™, or else you’re just a cold, unfeeling freak! It’s almost like—oh, the HORROR!—folks *can’t* handle something that doesn’t make them feel all warm and fuzzy! But guess what? Cold can *burn* too, honey.

And ACES! Oh, aces! HA, what a laugh! “No sex, no spice, keep ‘em chaste, keep ‘em nice!” *Lemme just adjust your halo there, buddy.* So being ace means you can’t ever—oh no, heaven forbid—enjoy a little flavor of the flesh? Like the existence of sexuality in any capacity shatters the whole concept! What do ya know?! One-dimensional understanding of a **spectrum**; it’s like watching somebody try to read a dictionary with a blindfold on! Think ya got the full picture, huh? When you’re only seeing three pages out of a *thousand*. 👁ronic, right? As if every ace is sitting there, sipping *tea with the void*, just quivering at the thought of someone—gasp!—touching *their hand*. Give me a BREAK.

And don’t EVEN get me started on the beastie debates! “Oh, why make aces or aros out as demons or monsters?” Tsk, tsk, tsk. Here’s a lil’ secret: some of us wear those scales like a *crown*, baby! Spines and claws and teeth like black holes—who said it’s shameful, huh? 👁s there a RULE that says you gotta keep it *soft* and *sanitized*? Like we’re not crawling through a reality that’s already got too much squeaky-clean sunshine propaganda! Maybe the monsters want a say, too! Or—*gasp!*—maybe that’s who we *ARE*! Shocking, right?

And the fandom brawls—ah, gotta love those. So lemme get this straight: a character can be headcanoned in a whole universe of ways, but *one* step outside the lines and it’s blasphemy? Fandom *orthodoxy*, isn’t it? Twist the canon like a rubik’s cube, make it unrecognizable? Totally fine! But give an ace or aro a shot at dating, at breaking those preconceived boundaries? Nope, not allowed! ***“How DARE you write them with a hint of intimacy, a whiff of romance! That’s WRONG!”*** It’s like trying to juggle knives in zero gravity—doesn’t matter how many dimensions you account for, they just can’t handle it!

Now, lemme ask ya somethin’: why should ***any*** of it be boxed up, put in neat little packages like the universe was some kid’s toybox, huh? Because, heh—newsflash! That’s not how this multiverse *tick-tick-TICKS*, baby! It’s more like a dance of shadows, slipping in n’ out, no rhythm, no rhyme—just endless **flux**!

So let’s toss those prim-n-proper rules into the *flaming pit of conventional thinking*, let’s let ‘em SMOULDER! Who cares if some ace likes a little flirtation? If some aro wants to spin their own tangled web of connections—or *none at all*? Who cares if some poor demonized, animalized, *dehumanized* depiction resonates with folks who see their own *alter* and *nonhuman* in the mirror? That’s not shameful—that’s *freedom*. Because identity ain’t a *game* with a winning rulebook—nah, it’s a **storm** of shattered reflections, and every. single. shard. matters.

So, sorry, pals, your neat little definitions just don’t cut it. Just like ***THIS***—it’s not meant to be understood, just... *let it twist in your head for a bit.* Reality’s what you make it, and ***we’re done pretending otherwise.***

Catch on? Or nah?

hey my dear humans! how y'all doing?

as we all know there are different types of relationships.

romantic relationships, platonic relationships, queerplatonic relationships, friends with benefits, hookup buddies, monogamous relationships, polyamorous relationships, etc.

but i would like to know if there are other types of non-romantic relationships, like for example, if you feel aesthetic attraction for someone, could you possibly be in an aesthetic relationship?

if y'all have any answers for my questions, you can either comment down below or message me.

see ya :)

Cishet aspecs are queer.

Cishet aromantics are queer. Cishet asexuals are queer. Cishet aplatonics are queer. Cishet afamilials are queer. Cishet anattractionals are queer.

Aspecs are queer as hell and excluding them only isolates queer people from their community.

i'm resposting this because i think it can be really helpful in case you're questioniong rather or not you're aspec or if you're questioning what type of attraction you're feeling :)

(this can also be helpful if you just want to learn more about different types of attraction)

Types of Tertiary Attraction Infographic

src: www.lgbta.wikia.org

"I'm going to say, 'I love you,' because that's easier on me, and I have to say how I feel to you—and I know you know that—but I'm going to be honest with you. I don't think I love, not like that, so what I really mean is that, 'I'm fond of you; I cherish you; you're very special to me'. I want you to understand that I don't quite 'love' you, but I do, in some kind of way."

"I know."

"You're not bothered by that?"

"Why would I be?"

People are going to read that and then immediately ignore what that means, aren't they?

Me: *writes a very complicated non-traditional relationship between two characters that is very explicitly laid out is that way because one of the characters is anattractional and, while sex-/romance-neutral, is mainly looking for someone to co-parent with, but that same character is neurodivergent and follows their religion's rules on dating and marriage because they're clearly defined and makes it easy on them, and their queerplatonic partner isn't on their radar for marriage because he's not the same religion and interfaith marriages aren't allowed, but also explicitly stops looking for a husband because none of the men they talked to would allow them to continue the partnership they have and that's more important to them than any theoretical husband, and then they end up getting married because the partner converts and they have a, "Hey, wait a minute," moment, and they agree to have a "traditional" relationship from then on but with the explicit acknowledgement that they're still more (queer)platonic than anything*

Also me: People are going to read all that and still think they're in a typical sex-/romance-positive allo relationship, aren't they?

Hey! I mean no disrespect by this at all I'm just genuinely curious, in your bio it says you're an emotionless / loveless aplaroace, but you're taken? How does that work?

Oh hey, you're fine. So, I'm going to go out on a limb here and assume you know that aromantics can still date, and aces can still participate in intercourse or other. You don't need attraction to do these things, though I'm sure it certainly helps! There identities that are on the aromantic/asexual spectrums where they can experience attraction as well or want to participate in these sorts of relationships(ex: romo or sexual positive aro/aces). Now apply this to the broader aspec/anattractional spectrums.

I will say that emotions can be similar. You don't need to have emotions to be in different kinds of relationships.

Emotionless/loveless are terms I go by to describe my overall experience and/or identity. It does not specify how much emotion or love I can experience, it's just easier to go by the terms instead of describing it all, as like with my aplaroace label which does not specify which identities I go by under that.

I also find it matters little to certain people and they treat me like others who experience even less than I do.

Now with all of that out of the way, I am on the aroace spectrums so I do experience attraction to an extent, and I experience it only with my two partners. All three of us have varying and different types of attraction. I also experience some other non-rose attractions to my partners and even for people outside of them, such as communal or community based attraction, impersonal attraction, solaic, et cetera.

You can really have any type of relationship, as long as it's consensual and in good faith, it's really limitless. Maybe you don't care about that and that's totally fine. Labels, identities, relationship styles/dynamics are for us to use or enjoy but it doesn't mean we have to. But I do and it makes me happy. My partners know I support them and wouldn't want either to be in a relationship with me where they are unhappy or discontent.

Signed ☝🏽

petition to call wondering if you're aspec "a-speculation"