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How did you keep going when I asked you,

no,

BEGGED you

to stop?

How did you keep going?

How did my cries and the crack in my voice

not make you feel guilty?

How did you hear my pain

knowing you caused ALL of it,

and not fucking stop?!

What the HELL?!

No matter what I was wearing,

And no matter where I could go,

Clothes do not mean yes

And no will always mean no.

Short as my skirt may have been,

And though I may have looked my best,

You did not ask for consent,

And I did not say yes.

I can still recall your hands

Where they should not have strayed,

And I will always remember

While for you it was just another day.

How many have fallen victim to you

And others who act the same?

Why are you still free to roam

And we get told to change our ways?

“I’m not afraid of God, I am afraid of men.” -Marina

I'm genderfluid and prefer presenting male most of the time, and I can attest to this. It hasn't happened irl because I'm technically "still in the closet", but online I've had to block multiple women because of sexual harassment. Most of the cis women I've met have been very toxic people, and it's honestly ruined my view of women for the most part.

something terves and transphobes love to leave out of their conversations is how often trans men & mascs are preyed upon by cisgender women. cisgender women are among some of the most frequent sexual abusers of trans men and they can be so casual about it

i had an old best friend who i was not even remotely attracted to in the slightest who aggressively began trying to get me to sleep with her after i came out as a trans man and continued to press me even after i told her i preferred men at the time, to an old roommate going on and on about how she thought i was hot because i was an "androgynous" man (meaning that i still have my breasts.) and would not drop trying to include me in a threesome with her partner as well as shifting the goalposts for what gender my secondary sex characteristics belong to every other sentence, to a random self-identified cis lesbian grabbing me by the shoulder outdoors, in public at a pop-up art market to tell me about how she would never sleep with a man, but she would consider sleeping with me because i'm "... you know." she said while gesticulating at my body.

none of these instances were ever provoked by me being sexual or interested in that person first, especially the incident in public. i am painfully asexual in person, i struggle to express these things and generally don't if i feel them. the fact that so many cisgender women have found it necessary to tell me that they want to sleep with me solely because i have a vagina to the point of even doing it in public around complete strangers is a dead giveaway that the second that so many cisgender people hear that a trans man is trans, they instantly stop viewing us as a man.

it's not just cishet men who do this. cisgender women can be abusive, yes, even sexually abusive. randomly telling someone you barely know that you want to have sex with them because of their genital situation is predatory and abusive, no matter WHO it's coming from.

Tw: SA mention

Might wear sweaters more since I got SA'ed for the 2nd time last thursday (Jan 4th, 2024). I want to be as unflattering as possible.

(not saying people wearing sweaters are ugly or don't get SA'ed, I mean I want to hide typically sexualized parts (torso, chest, stomach etc.)

Which is also why I'm glad my acne seems to be getting worse.

(again not saying people with acne are ugly, its just not a very sought after thing.)

And you may say, "people normally look for personality, not looks." and I would agree if we weren't referencing SA. Assaulter don't care about you or what your like. They only want your body and to not get caught.

TW/CW: Mentions of Sexual Assault (Nothing shown), Kaeya being an alcoholic

I love this man so much. I need mfers to stop trying to take advantage of him 😥

Alright, I'm sick of seeing TERFisms on my dash, so here's a handy list of TERF dogwhistles and talking points to think about before you reblog a post.

I've seen a few of these before, but it doesn't hurt to make more. Especially when we're seeing a lot of radfem rhetoric popping up in LGBT spaces from people who might not know better.

SCREENNAMES: these are terms that commonly appear in radfem usernames across the web

rad or radical

fem or femme

vulva, clit, uterus, womb, ovary, vagina, etc.

febfem

anything along the lines of "angry woman"

xx or chromosomes

wombyn, wimmin, womyn, etc.

LGB

feminist

BIOS: things that show up in radfem bios

♀ or ⚢

febfem

female separatist

female, human female, adult human female

xx

something along the lines of "the scary feminist you were warned about"; being an angry woman, being sick of being silenced, being an evil woman, being an angry lesbian

detrans (NOTE: detrans people are absolutely not always transphobic)

dysphoric female

males/men do not interact

LGB✂️

misandrist

feminist (NOTE: again, very few feminists are actually terfs, but this is commonly in terf bios alongside some of these other terms)

TERMS: terms that radfems use in their circles

TIM - trans-identified male, a way of saying transfems, trans women, and other trans people

TIF - trans-identified female, same as above but the other way around, less commonly seen

DSD - disorder of sexual development, a way to avoid saying intersex and to categorize intersex people as "still male or female" (you might see "males with DSD" or "females with DSD" for example)

females or males instead of women and men

alternatively, women and males to dehumanize men

"peaking" or "peaked" - referring to becoming radicalized as a radfem or TERF

womyn, wombyn, wimmin, wo**n, and any other spelling that takes "man" out of the term woman

mentally ill men/women

sex-based oppression

gender critical

"TIRF" - trans-inclusive radical feminist (don't be fooled by the name, they're very much not)

TRA - trans rights activist, derogatory

sex-based rights

female separatism/"women's land"

WBW - womyn-born womyn

autistic girls/children

troon - (ridiculous) slur for trans people

RHETORIC: general ideological themes in radfem rhetoric

men are inherently more violent than women

women don't or rarely rape men

(woman on woman rape is ignored by almost all radfems)

being nonbinary is a way to "stop being" your assigned sex while still acting as your birth sex

lesbians are not attracted to men/penises and can never have sex with men/penises (otherwise, you're bisexual)

men can and will never be lesbians

there is no such thing as a bi lesbian, only lesbians and bisexuals. labels are rigid and sex-based

all of the world's suffering is driven by men

women would be better off separate

an all-female society is utopia

sex is binary, and intersex people are "glitches" or "still male or female but DisorderedTM"

men should expect to be feared by women

female/female relationships are safer and more pure than straight or gay male relationships

men and women are more different than similar

intersex people should not be allowed in sports

intersex people and trans men are never in men's sports

terrible world events wouldn't have happened if women were in charge

men are stupid and aggressive

being a man is not a positive thing

men's problems are lesser than women's

penises are disgusting and vaginas and vulvas are beautiful

trans women are performing at being girls

trans men see themselves as above lesbians

attraction is sex-based

porn is rape

porn is inherently violent

watching porn makes you predisposed to inflicting abuse

BDSM is inherently violent and misogynistic

transitioning children (whether socially or medically) are being abused

"bitch" and "cunt" are slurs against women

only gay men can say faggot and only lesbian women can say dyke

When you see a few or more of these together, RUN! It's a terf.

twitter is very unhealthy right now. before, it was the english comunity of qsmp accusing him of abuse, calling us monkeys and other racist and xenophobic terms. they kept adding things to the ex's story and going on tranding page with it, if it weren't for them, cellbit would never have had to expose himself like this.

everywhere I go there is someone making fun of the situation, saying that he wanted to attract attention. and worst of all, trying to invalidate his experience because he is asexual. "such thing don´t exist, it is not SA" "just like dream". and is not even the qsmp comunity, cellbit was a beloved cc before the server, so all brazilian twtter is talking about it even when they didn't read his doc or understand what is happening.

I hate it, I hate it, I hate it. I couldn't finish reading the document and I'm very upset. i am ace and can´t stand seeing how everybody just say shit about his experience. fuck.

it is very disappointing to see a community that i like do something like that. cellbit was prepared to just keep quiet about it, but the english community just forced him to say it. disgusting.

If you make a character who is unanimously disliked, ask yourself why. If they're the villain, good! They are meant to be disliked unless there's some other circumstance that makes you need someone to like them. But if they're a good guy, you need to change something. The hero is meant to be at least somewhat likeable, unless there's some other circumstance that makes you need to hate them.

I forgive Feanorians. I forgive Malygos, Deathwing, Jaina and Murozond. Hell, I could probably forgive Grindelwald. I don't forgive him. He makes me uncomfortable (Probably because several people have accused him of sexual misconduct) and he does nothing but antagonize people. You call him such a great character but all he actually does is threaten people and not do anything.

This is directed towards a certain friend who wouldn't know it was them if I flat out said it was to their face.

has anyone gotten the idea that odysseus' storyline in hades 2 is a depiction/exploration of trauma over his SA and how he's blaming himself for things that were out of his control? because that's the impression i'm getting from what i've seen. he talks about "goddesses" as his "greatest weakness" and that "he's not one to say no to them"...

when mel invites him to the bath, he brings up mortals having different standards for intimacy than gods and how it usually has a more romantic/sexual connotation. she then asks if he's uncomfortable and he has a startled reaction and brings up circe and calypso again (but never actually by name)

(this isn't ship/romance bait btw. odysseus knew mel as a kid and they're stated in-game to have a sibling/uncle-niece relationship)

also he grew apart from penelope after his return, but the game makes a point of showing that his love for penelope and telemachus is what drove him on at all so that element of his character isn't brought into question

mfs really tainting the tag with daddyxdaughter fics like get some fucking help you nasty ass FREAKS 💀💀

stop making fanfics about characters raping and sexually assaulting y/n, you are fucking disgusting people who romanticize a serious crime that happens every day to children and women

"but that's just reading dark romance" that's not a dark romance, that's just the stuff of a horrible fetish, IF YOU HAVE A RAPE FETISH, GO SEEK FOR FUCKING PSYCHIATRIST HELP!!!!!!!!!!

Hiii 💗 i also have an NBC Hannibal request, if that's okay

Uhh so maybe an imagine where the reader has been sa'd before in her previous relationship so she's kind of hesitant to go further with Hannibal when they start dating. One night while making out, Hannibal maybe steps a little out of line and that puts reader into an anxiety attack. But he calms her down and reassures that he will always prioritize her safety and consent and that he loves her 🥹

Pairings || Hannibal Lecter x Female!Reader

Contents/Warnings || Anxiety attack, some details and mentions of SA

Gif found on pinterest from the user sydney14well

You had only been dating Hannibal for a few months now, and everything had been wonderful. He was such a gentleman, and understanding about your boundaries and past, especially your past experiences with sexual assault. Your previous boyfriend was terrible to you, abusive and manipulative. He overstepped every boundary you had, often forcing you past your comfort zones and making you do things you never wanted to do, and pushing you into sexual acts that were only pleasurable for him. The breakup was long and drawn out thanks to him, and it only made you feel worse mentally.

The whole relationship put you off of dating for two years until you met Hannibal, and things just felt right with him. You were grateful to have Hannibal as your boyfriend, and in your life at all, but despite his kindness and respect towards you, you were still hesitant to go further than kissing him. He was careful and diligent with not making you uncomfortable, wanting you to enjoy every moment with him without being reminded of your past relationship.

About six months into dating, you found yourself in Hannibal’s house, having a dinner date with an array of food that Hannibal had prepared for the two of you. It was a calm night filled with good conversation, good food, good wine, good everything. You both made the decision that you would stay the night with him, not wanting you to drive with any alcohol in your system. It wasn’t uncommon for you to spend the night once in a while, being able to comfortably sleep beside him without anything handsy happening.

The two of you eventually ended up sitting on the edge of his bed, a heated make-out taking place. The amount of wine you had was making you a little more relaxed than usual while doing this, up until you felt Hannibal’s hand. It rested on your knee for a moment before you felt it slowly slide up your thigh. Hannibal had only ever touched your face and shoulders, never venturing lower than that. Your fight or flight kicked in, and you quickly shoved his hand away, jumping back a bit on the bed and almost falling off.

Hannibal stopped immediately, “Y/N..” He began, but he was cut off seeing tears begin to fall down your face. You sat against the headboard while covering your face with your hands, remembering everything your ex had ever done to you. Hannibal stayed calm, whispering that he was apologetic about what he had done, and telling you to breathe and asking if you needed him to do anything for you to help. He didn’t touch you, giving you space on the bed for you to calm down.

As you calmed, sniffling and breathing heavily, Hannibal spoke up, “It won’t happen again, Y/N, I promise. Your comfortability is my top priority, I just got a little carried away,” His voice was soft and loving. “Tell me what I can do for you.”

You let out a long sigh, finally being able to breathe normally again, “I’m okay, it just made me… remember some things,” You rub your face tiredly, “I’m sorry I freaked out like that…”

Hannibal shakes his head, “Don’t apologise, you didn’t do anything wrong,” He assures you, “Would you like me to run you a bath to relax?”

“Yes, thank you..” You watch as he rises from the bed, standing in front of you for a moment, “We don’t have to do anything, ever, if you aren’t comfortable with it. And I will always respect whatever you choose,” He says, giving you a comforting smile before disappearing into the bathroom.

You watch him go, wondering how you ended up with such a caring man after such a terrible one.

Trigger warning: Rape, unwanted pregnancy and abortion mention.

Mommy issues starts when you know that if you get raped and impregnated by it, your mom will not let you have an abortion and would let your entire adolescence be ruined with the excuse of: “You can set it up for adoption when it gets born.”

Ykw, I already made a post about it, but imma say it again, because I think it deserves it's own post.

I am shittin and walkin to the fact that Michael Jackson was a sex symbol n a grown adult, y'all have no rights to be leaking and disclosing private sexual facts about his life.

“Ah, but it was Lisa Marie Presley who said it!” Fodase. “Ah, but- It was people who knew him who leaked it!” Fodase. “But-” Do ya know what fodase means? FUCK. IT.

It is creepy, not everyone is consenting to see nsfw leaks of him, n I don't doubt that it counts as sexual assault. I really hope this phenomenon has decreased over the years and that the post I saw on Pinterest about his favourite position at 13 was posted at least 8 or 9 years ago, but just incase: Chill. The fuck. Out.

Links that OP also provided: Campaign for Uyghurs Speak Up For The Uyghurs (Carrd) Save Uyghur (Companies Linked to Uyghur Forced Labour) The Coalition to End Forced Labour in the Uyghur Region

There is mass systematic sexual violence being committed against Ugyhur women in these concentration camps as a 'torture tactic'-I have read horrifying reports and details about their many experiences -being violated over and over again and it's just horrifying -these accounts are something I will never forget reading about because it is truly despicable what has been done to them. And the fact that the Chinese government STILL refuses to acknowledge what they have done -and deny these 'allegations,' I hope more people learn about what has been happening in these camps where a genocide is occurring against Uyghur people.

Here are some more links to some articles for folks to look into this and with some more information about what has been happening:

“Break Their Lineage, Break Their Roots”- China’s Crimes against Humanity Targeting Uyghurs and Other Turkic Muslims

China Uses Rape as Torture Tactic Against Uighur Detainees, Victims Say

Abortions, IUDs and sexual humiliation: Muslim women who fled China for Kazakhstan recount ordeals

idk i think sometimes we can extend a little kindness and understanding like people will grieve good omens if season 3 gets cancelled and that’s very human it doesn’t mean they don’t care about victims of sexual assault too — a body can hold many emotions

IF NOT WELL DONT READ

tw implied csa

thsi made me cry, gosh .

Hi all I’ve been wanting to make something with huntlow and re: trauma processing for a while now, they mean a lot to me in terms of how I relate to them and how sweet they r… however I chose not to sugarcoat the dialogue because I feel like topics like these shouldn’t be shied away from and Should be discussed, but because it’s triggering I’m putting where it starts under a readmore so!! Heed the warnings pls

cw for talk about c/sa

They make me so emotional and soft guah… thank you for supporting me and encouraging me to write about this stuff I love you all

Y'know, whenever people want to talk about why aspec people 'count' as an oppressed identity, they tend to go for the big stuff like corrective rape and conversion therapy. And like, we should absolutely talk about that stuff. Obviously those things are terrible and important and we need to raise awareness and deal with them.

But I feel like people often gloss over how… quietly traumatising it is to grow up being told that there is only one way to be happy— and that everybody who doesn't conform to that norm is secretly miserable and just doesn't know it— and then to gradually realise that, for reasons that you cannot help, that is never going to happen for you.

You're not going to find a prince/princess and ride off into the sunset. Or if you do, then it's not going to look exactly the way it does in fairytales. You're not going to get a 'normal' relationship, because you are not 'normal', and everybody and everything around you keeps telling you that that's bad.

You see films where characters are presented as being financially stable, genuinely passionate about their work and surrounded by friends and family, but then spend the rest of the plot realising that the real thing they needed was a (romantic and sexual) partner, to make them 'complete'.

You absorb the idea that any relationships you have with allo people will ultimately be unfulfilling on their side, and that this will be your fault (even if you discussed things with your partner beforehand and they decided that they were a-okay with having those sorts of boundaries in a relationship) unless you deliberately force yourself into situations that you aren't comfortable with, so as to make uo for your 'defects'.

You grow up feeling lowkey gaslighted because all the adults in your life (even in LGBT+ spaces. In fact especially in LGBT+ spaces) are insisting that it's totally normal to not be attracted to anybody at your age, and then you go to school and everybody keeps pressuring you to name somebody you're attracted to because they can't imagine not being attracted to anybody at your age.

And then you get older and realise that one day you're going to be expected to leave home, and that one day all your friends are going to be expected to put aside other relationships and 'settle down' with a primary partner and you don't know what you're going to do after that because you straight up don't have a roadmap for what a 'happy ending' looks like for someone like you.

(And the LGBT+ community is little help, because so many people in there are more than happy to tell you that you're not oppressed at all. That you're like this because you don't want to have sex, and/or you don't want to have any relationships, that your orientation is some sort of choice you made— like not eating bananas— rather than an intrinsic part of you that a lot of us have at some point tried to wish away.)

Even if you're grey or demi, and do experience those feelings, you still have to deal with the fact that you're not experiencing them the 'normal' way and that that's going to effect your relationships and your ability to find one in the first place.

If you're aiming for lifelong singlehood (which is valid af) or looking for a qpp, then you're going to have to spend the rest of your life either letting people make wrong assumptions about your situation (at best that your relationship is of a different nature than it actually is, at worst that the life you've chosen is really just a consolation prize because you 'failed' at finding a romantic/sexual partner) or pulling out a powerpoint and several webpages every time you want to explain it.

This what being aspec looks like for most people, and it is constantly minimised as being unimportant and not worth fighting against— even in aspec spaces— because we've all on some level absorbed the idea that oppression is only worth fighting against if it's big, and dramatic, and immediately obvious. That all the little incidents of suffering that we experience on a daily basis are not enough to be worth bothering about.

I mean, who gives a shit if you feel broken, inherently toxic as a partner, and like you're going to be denied happiness because of your orientation? Shouldn't we all just shut up and thank our lucky stars we don't have to deal with all the stuff some of the other letters in the acronym have to put up with (leaving aside the fact that there are many aspec people who identify with more than one letter)?

So you know what? If you're aspec and you relate to anything I've said above (or can think of other things relating your your aspec-ness that I haven't mentioned) then this is me telling you now that it's enough. Even if we got rid of all the big stuff (which we're unlikely to do any time soon because— Shock! Horror!— the big stuff is actually connected to all the small stuff) we would still be unable to consider our fight 'over' because what you are experiencing is not 'basically okay' and something we should just be expected to 'put up with'.

No matter what anybody tells you, we have the right to demand more from life than this.

Just an experiment. Reblog if you actually give a fuck about male victims of domestic violence and rape.

Of fucking course

What sick bastard doesn’t

Why do I traumatize ducks? I have no idea I may have a little fuck up brain but well I need to live with it