Looking For A Partner

Looking for a partner

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Please read all the way for my boundaries, criteria, and who I have picked as candidates. Thank you.

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So, we all know at how there's been a ton of grooming allegations being thrown against people right?

And we all know how when you point out any flaws in the accusations people will send an entire hate mob against you right?

Honestly, fuck it and fuck you society.

atp, I'm already mentally fucked anyway, so let's find me a partner! I'm sick of being an incel anyway.

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Here is some of my criteria:

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must be around 18 to 39 years old (NO OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN THAT)

Can be any gender (though i'd prefer anyone that's AMAB since I don't know if AFAB to AFAB sex is gonna work out for me)

Must be able to give me as much attention as they can (with the exception of work, school, or any important things that will deter me from being able to speak with you)

Must have knowledge about BPD and how it works (because I don't want to deal with someone getting mad at me over showing a BPD trait. If you don't already know much I recommend researching it before coming to me.)

Is comfortable with sex or sexual topics (bonus points if you talk about sexual topics a lot)

Must have similar interests (I like five nights at freddy's and minecraft :> Tony crynight is my special interest)

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Here are some of the candidates I chose based off this criteria (though someone else can always ask me out if they meet this criteria too :>):

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Tony Crynight (30) (to make up for all the time he's been ignoring me)

YandereDev (36)

Synnibear03 (21) (she seems nice :3)

PumpkinTheGentleman (19) (I love his art and he's funny)

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If you're one of the lucky people who are on this list or meet the criteria above that list, please DM me!

Discord: Nozomi Kaizoku #0644 (though you can DM me from any of my other socials as well)

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My boundaries:

[Note: when I split from someone, my views on a person turn negative when they were originally positive, and I have a tendency to block the person in question and refuse to unblock them until after I have gone out of a split. Either I love someone or hate them.]

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Please use he/they/it pronouns for me (most basic boundary)

If I'm discussing something opinion based (like online drama), don't switch up on me mid-discussion, it will cause me to split from you. It will come off as invalidation, which is extremely triggering to me.

If you need to criticize my behavior, please be gentle about it. I struggle with handling criticism due to trauma (though I am working on it in therapy), and it can be triggering for me sometimes.

PLEASE let me know of any boundaries you want me to follow IN ADVANCE, and if I break a boundary on accident, correct me. I had an issue with this regarding an ex-friend in the past and it (alongside the witch up) resulted in me going into a crisis (and losing that friend of course).

Please use tone tags when discussing anything with me. I won't immediately know your tone, and I will think you're mad at me if I perceive it that way, which can be distressing for me.

Please don't actively ignore me or refuse to acknowledge my existence until I go into a crisis or if I start to display harmful behaviors. This will cause me to believe that you don't care about how I actually feel and will cause me to split.

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That's about it! hope you're interested!

you ignore me because you hate me. admit it. now. go. vamos

it feels like everyone has their own friend groups and im just a dog that trails behind

REAL, and it gets worse when they actually confirm your beliefs by getting mad at you for having that belief in the first place.

i hate that BPD gives me such a lack of emotional permanence.

you can spend hours describing the ways in which you care about me, yet the moment you stop my brain will immediately decide you hate me and are destined to leave me.

"It's no big surprise you turned out this way, When they closed their eyes and prayed you would change, And they cut your hair and sent you away, You stopped by my house the night you escaped, With tears in my eyes, I begged you to stay, You said, 'Hey, man, I love you, but no fucking way' " ~Twin Size Mattress by The Front Bottoms

Still find it hard to believe that people forget I had to deal with a lot of long term trauma and it's manifested into this disorder that completely distorts my perceptions of relationships and self image and will display shitty behavior because of said disorder impacting me in some way.

I identify as aromantic because I already gave up on trying to find a romantic relationship, it's my need for a sexual relationship but not being able to find anyone and how my relationships failed me in the past that makes me an incel (well, I actually identify as a femcel, but you get the idea)

I feel like aro/ace incels are valid because they are a celibate due to their lack of attraction (which is involuntary btw), and I think that should be more recognized in the incel community.

idk, that's just kinda my take.

(tagging as BPD because that's also why I identify as an incel)

Edit: forgot to mention that cupioromantic/cupiosexual can be used as an alternative label to describe celibacy due to attraction (as a former cupiosexual myself), and it's just as valid :>

It's kind of shitty and borderline aphobic to claim most aspec people are just incels trying to get away from the label. You seem to miss that a lot of us don't want a relationship or are already in one. If an aspec person struggles to find a relationship more than most people, it's usually because of their aspec-ness, since it can be hard to find someone ok with that. Overall you clearly have a very warped perspective of aspec people and I'd love it if you took your nose out of our business

I don't have any problem into admiting I excluded a lot of people when I said "aro/ace people are nothing more than socially accepted incel", I was actually typing an smol apology about that since it wasn't supposed to get into actual aro/ace people and I communicated myself badly

except I'm still gonna point about actual incels who use it as a umbrella term to avoid being related with the stereotypes that people think about incels