Trauma Healing - Tumblr Posts

Do you know how many times I have to stop myself from sending my children’s father updates on them and our unborn? At least once a day.

There is so much he’s missing out on, like cute milestones or pictures, but it’s not my job to catch him up if he chooses not to be involved or doesn’t care to know about his kids…🤷🏻‍♀️

After seeing how easy it is for you to choose them over me, it’s official as long as you don’t give me my place then you have lost me for good and FOREVER💯

All I can say is as much as I want to hate you I don’t I only wish you the best. That doesn’t change the fact that I will never forgive you for the damage and hurt you caused though. And I do want revenge so I’m on a mission to get better and rebuild myself into an even more magnificent woman✨

One day I'll be fully healed from all these damages and I'll be even more proud of myself

my pain is valid

my anger is valid

my anxiety is valid

my traumas are valid

my tears are valid, including the ones I didn't let fall and had to repress

and no one who hasn't been on my place has any right to say otherwise

I have been in love with every single song this man has dropped this year.

Looking back, I’ll never tell you it was easy to get to where I am today..

I am far from where I want to be and I have much still left to learn and understand about myself and life.

It’s been a long and hard journey that has taken everything I have,

And truthfully,

Most days I don’t know how I survive.

I get knocked down and kicked around until I think I can’t go on..

But I do and always have..

You do it long enough that survival mode becomes a way of life.

Honestly, I’ve done most of the damage to myself with bad decisions and self doubt,

But that’s just part of the process, I guess.

I never thought I’d learn to rise above and find my way,

But I did and I still am, every day.

And I’m still learning- I have far yet to go.

I have days that take everything I’ve got to survive and nights that seem to never end.

I’ve been a horrible person but I’ve also chosen to do good things too.

I’m flawed, broken and messed up..

But I also have a big heart, beautiful thoughts and a kind spirit..

And it’s a battle between both sides, every day.

I have more good days than bad now, but it’s still hard.

I don’t win as much as I lose,

But that’s okay.

I’m learning, I’m growing and I’m trying to be better today than I was yesterday.

I can’t ever take back all the pain I’ve caused and I can’t undo the wrong I’ve done..

But I’m trying to make amends, rebuild trust and maybe in time, be a good person..

Or at least feel good about where I am in my journey.

I don’t like what I see in the mirror and haven’t in a long time..

But there are glimpses of hope every so often.

I know it’ll take time, but I’m working on it- working on me, one day at a time the best that I can.

So, maybe some day when you see me finally flying high and shining brightly,

I’ll tell you the story of how I found my wings..

It won’t be a tale of glorious victory and dazzling dreams..

No, it’ll be a story of failure, darkness and fighting to get better and be stronger.

It won’t be shiny and happy, but it’ll be real..

And it’ll be me.

And in the end, that’s what will matter most in my journey:

That I battled, kept going and found my way.

Overcame my failures and learned from my mistakes.

Maybe it’ll be a beautiful day, that day when I tell you that story.

Maybe not.

But it will be real.

And that’s the kind of stuff that matters.

The painful hard truths that get us where we need to be.

One glorious but messy day at a time.

Thought I had major abandonment issues but turns out I was just neglected lol

My new small town is beautiful!!! I’m LOVING this fresh start in my life. Beyond blessed and grateful 🙏🫶🤩

“Not every parent is equipped with the calmness and presence of mind to react so pleasantly. Myself included. We have our own personal traumatic experiences to cope with, and unfortunately we need to reprogram them before passing them on to our own children. We will not always succeed. Breaking that cycle is a very difficult task. Life is real people. I'd love to be able to say that I didn't yell at my kids, but I was abused so badly as a child that my emotions are more powerful than my logic. If this is you, take it from me and please keep working to break that cycle. Our family's future and the world around it depends on it.”

Read this somewhere & I couldn’t relate more to this.

pac,, inner child messages

pile one,,

your inner child is proud of you for working hard. you could still be wanting the same dream as when you were young. this could possibly be art or music? be careful to not overwork yourself. they want you to be happy while doing what you want, not treating it like a task or chore. they love how independent you are and how you don't need other people to feel happy. it's like you don't care about the gossip around you. your a hard worker and you've been doing this on your own. pat yourself on the back a bit more often.

pile two,,

your inner child loves how caring and nurturing you are. they love how good you are with emotions, especially the emotions of other people. you could have had childhood wounds from a mother or parental figure. they see you making things happen "like magic." even if you take care of people all the time, you still wanna be taken care of as well. you just want those feelings to be returned since you never experienced them as a child. you could also be hoping for this in romance. you could have watched lots of romance/shoujo anime as a kid.

pile three,,

they love your cool relaxed energy. it's just so unbothered. you could have been treated as too dramatic or a crybaby when you were younger. maybe even bullied? most likely bullied or seen as the "weird kid." they love that you're smart but they notice you're a bit of a downer sometimes. you have strong walls put up because you're scared of being hurt. so you are tough and unbothered but only because you're scared. you could be studying something or be focused on school. you're focused on doing good for your future but haven't really planned your future at all.

Healing Your Inner Child: A Journey Towards Emotional Wholeness

Shaina Tranquilino

October 17, 2023

As we navigate through life's challenges and responsibilities, many of us carry unresolved emotional wounds from our past. These unhealed wounds often originate from childhood experiences, shaping our beliefs, behaviours, and relationships as adults. The concept of healing your inner child offers a powerful way to address these deep-rooted issues, paving the path towards emotional wholeness and self-acceptance. In this blog post, we will explore practical steps you can take to embark on this transformative journey.

1. Acknowledge the Existence of Your Inner Child:

The first step in any healing process is acknowledging that there is an inner child within you who requires attention and care. Recognize that your younger self still exists within you, carrying all those emotions and experiences. Allow yourself to reconnect with this part of you without judgment or criticism.

2. Create a Safe Space for Self-Exploration:

Creating a safe space for self-reflection is crucial when delving into your inner child's healing process. Find a peaceful setting where you feel comfortable expressing your emotions freely. Consider journaling, meditation, or seeking professional support to help guide you through this introspective journey.

3. Identify Past Traumas and Limiting Beliefs:

Take time to reflect on your childhood experiences and identify any significant traumas or negative events that might have impacted your psyche. Explore how these incidents may have shaped your beliefs about yourself, others, and the world around you. By gaining awareness of these limiting beliefs, you can begin to challenge them effectively.

4. Practice Self-Compassion:

Healing your inner child requires showing compassion towards yourself in ways that perhaps weren't offered during your formative years. Embrace self-care practices such as nurturing activities, affirmations, forgiveness exercises (including forgiving yourself), and treating yourself with love and kindness whenever possible.

5. Reconnect with Your Inner Child:

Allow yourself to tap into the childlike wonder and innocence that resides within you. Engage in activities that evoke joy, creativity, and playfulness. Embrace hobbies or interests that once brought you happiness as a child. By nurturing this connection, you are providing your inner child with the love and attention they may have lacked.

6. Reparenting Yourself:

Reparenting involves fulfilling your own emotional needs by giving yourself the care and support you longed for during childhood. Be attentive to your feelings and emotions, validating them instead of dismissing or suppressing them. Cultivate healthy boundaries, self-discipline, and self-compassion as part of this healing process.

7. Seek Professional Support if Needed:

Sometimes, healing deep-seated wounds requires professional guidance from therapists specializing in inner child work or trauma recovery. These professionals can offer valuable insights, techniques, and tools tailored to your unique journey towards healing your inner child.

Healing your inner child is an ongoing process that requires patience, compassion, and commitment to self-discovery. By acknowledging their existence, creating a safe space for exploration, identifying past traumas and limiting beliefs, practicing self-compassion, reconnecting with your inner child, reparenting yourself, and seeking professional support when necessary – you can pave the way towards emotional wholeness and lead a more authentic life filled with love and acceptance.

it’s okay to be disabled

your disabilities simultaneously define you and are not all you are. recognize that being disabled in a society that values productivity and independence will hinder you, this society was not built to accommodate your needs. but having higher support needs than your peers does not make you any less, and you are still a very valuable part of this world exactly as you are now. <3

- dom (they/she)

trauma healing + support needs

just a reminder that anyone who holds unconditional love for you will try their best to meet your support needs. unconditional love doesn’t mean that someone should sacrifice themself to be at your beckon call, but it does mean they will try their best to be there for you.

your high support needs are valid.

needing debriefs after therapy.

needing to cry often.

getting triggered often and needing comfort.

needing to use AAC devices.

being in a “little” headspace often.

needing encouragement to brush your teeth.

needing a lot of medication to be your best self.

all of these needs do not negate your worth as a human or your importance in romantic/platonic relationships. no matter how disabled you are, you deserve however much support and love you need. <3

- dom (they/she)

all memes made by Galaxy in our system!

looking at these as not the alter that made them makes it even funnier lmao

-Z

system intros (lydia)

(pic is from pinterest but i’m not sure who is in the pic)

name: lyds (lydia)

pronouns: she/her

gender expression: feminine

sexuality: bisexual

age: 17

role/s: symptom holder/trauma holder

special interests: video games, resident evil

extras: i don’t front a ton, but i like being around ppl and getting 🍃 and playing video games when i do front

hey all!! thank you for the love on our last post, here are some more system memes made by Z in our system <33

some animal crossing themed system memes for you on this fine trauma filled day!! <33

some mew mew power memes for you guys today hehe 🥰

some plural/DID My little pony memes for you little goblins in trench coats

just started a Partial Hospitalization Program so what’s a better way to celebrate than with some Disney memes!

hopefully y’all enjoy :)) <3