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Considering its pride month yet again, i figured now would be a good time to post the other terms i coined not long after this one! I posted one on reddit but the other two haven't seen the light of day since. here they are! (*^▽^)/★*☆♪
The first is Demiit, second is Demideadname, last is Demichosenname!
Here are the definitions ( ^-^)ノ∠※。.:*:・'°☆
Demiit: Only using it/itself with people you have a strong connection to.
(This one's example is the same as the original set's collective example!)
Demideadname: Only using your deadname with people you have a strong connection to.
(Ex: With most people, you would prefer they call you A, but you're okay with certain people still calling you B.)
Demichosenname: Only using your chosen name with people you have a strong connection to.
(Ex: With most people, you still prefer them calling you B, but with some people, you'd rather they call you A.)
Well, there you have it! (O▽O)b the new and improved demipronoun list! i hope you can find somw of these terms useful for yourself or a friend!
So... i coined some new terms and posted them on reddit, and they seemed to be useful, so i'm posting them here too!
Here are my new terms !
The first one is Demipronoun, second is Demishe, third is Demihe, fouth is Demithey, and fifth is Demineo! here's what they mean:
Demipronoun : Only using a certain pronoun with people you have a strong connection to
Demishe : Only using she/her with people you have a strong connection to
Demihe : Only using he/him with people you have a strong connection to
Demithey : Only using they/them with people you have a strong connection to
Demineo : Only using one or more sets of neoprene with people you have a strong connection to
COLLECTIVE EXAMPLES:
With most people, you want them to refer to you with they/them, but with people you are close to, you are okay with them referring to you with she/her
I can post the colour explanations if people want!
so as someone who has being bullied and faced transphobia and queerphobia at school, i decided that since this year i'm in a new school i wouldn't come out for my safety and mental health.
however, that's exhausting. i'm tired of playing a character and pretending that i am someone i'm not. i'm tired of being deadnamed and misgendered all the time. i'm tired of not feeling safe there.
at school, i'm only out to some close friends and they're really supportive but to safeguard my personal safety they have to deadname me and misgender me most of the time, which is also a bit exhausting.
and like even though my teachers are showing that they're queer-friendly, i still feel scared of my classmates knowing i'm queer and they're actually starting to notice i'm queer which scares me cause i don't wanna suffer again.
sometimes i just feel like being homeschooled because at least i'd be able to be named correctly, gendered correctly, be who i am and dress the way i want cause my parents are really supportive and i love them so much.
btw sorry for this giant text but i needed to vent. love y'all and don't forget you're valid and loved<3.
That's a fae. You got your name taken by a fae. You gave him your name.
A while back my pharmacist saw my deadname on my profile and accidentially called it out, he corrected and deleted my deadname from the system so only my preferred name shows up now. There was a crowd of people behind me, so as he hands over the pills he apologized, in equal tone and volume as when he called my deadname and lied saying it's been a long day and he didn't mean to call out -his own- name. I quietly told him it was fine and he didn't need to do that for my sake.
His response: "No, it's my name now."
I went to the pharmacist yesterday, his nametag is my deadname. He informed me he's immigrating and in the process he's changed his first name to my deadname to have an English sounding name. That's why he's now able to get a reprint of his nametag to be my deadname. And repeated, with the intense seriousness of someone who is going to die on this hill: "It's mine now. Not yours. I'm taking." His tone indicated that decision is final.
Bro literally deadnamed me once, and has committed to flat out stealing my deadname. It's his now. Legally. Officially. I over heard his co-workers call him by the name.
The pain and awkwardness I feel having to misgender or deadname someone in front of my parents is why i prefer not to bring my friends home
Reminder not to refer to trans peoples' deadnames as their "real name" or "actual name". It's birth name or deadname (or legal name if they haven't yet changed it). The name they use is their "real," "actual" name.
that moment when you finally start standing up for yourself and very politely correcting people when they deadname you (especially when it's around people that prior to this interaction, didn't know your deadname and than your biggest fear comes true BC the person that deadnamed you calls you arrogant and rude for correcting them... Very fun. Very delightful. Very demure.
Yesterday at work I went into my blind boss's office. I had finished my work and wanted to ask if he had anything else in mind for me to do. I had forgotten that Rider, the large, hip height poodle mix was there today. Rider is aggressive, and protective of said blind boss. He approaches me and growls, from behind a corner boss asks who's there.
"Deadname!" I said 🤮😭 in fear
He gets the dog and asks me to step outside using my chosen name.
I was so upset at myself... I mean he knew it already but still. Dagnabbit brain why
Does anyone else ever like
Physically flinch whenever they see their deadname? It doesn't matter if it's differently spelled, it's an instant recoil and panicked scroll for me lmfao
Not only have I not been Catholic for decades, that’s not even my actual name anymore
Truly love the number of people I've met that have been like "Well I went to a Catholic school as a kid, which is to say I'm not Catholic" like damn Catholic schools really out here doing the exact opposite of missionary work.
Me normally watching a YouTube video: :)
The video being about someone with my deadname: what the fuckk??? ○_○
I don't think I'll ever again be as poetic as when I wrote this on the back of picture of myself when I was a kid.
how to be okay when I see my deadname
*adjusts microphone*
IT’S NOT OKAY TO DEADNAME YOUR KIDS WHEN YOU’RE MAD AT THEM
i'm stealing that now
