Levelling Up - Tumblr Posts
TTRPG where instead of levelling up to get new abilities you can just yell and new abilities appear on your character sheet.
Will they be good abilities? Not always. But they will certainly be new abilities.
MESSAGE!!!!šššÆ
Why You Should Always Use Your Best Now Instead of Saving it for Later
š¹ Because you deserve to feel your best every day, not just on occasions.
š¹ Because "later" rarely comes.
š¹ Because you're just wasting your own money if you buy some high-quality makeup or skincare products just for them to expire barely used because you wanted to save them for an occasion.
š¹ Because life is unpredictable. What if a guest drops by unexpectedly and you're eating from a chipped plate or a tupperware container? What if you see your ex, or your crush, or meet the love of your life, or see your boss, or see someone who was mean to you in school, and you're wearing a worn-out hoodie and sweatpants with a hole? Many of us would feel self-conscious if something like that happened, but it can be avoided if you wear nice clothes and use your good china instead of keeping it hidden away for some possible future special event.
š¹ Because what's the point in having beautiful floral china, just for it to gather dust while you eat off of chipped plates and mismatched mugs? What's the point in owning silk blouses and cashmere jumpers, just for them to stay in your closet for months or years while you wear ratty t-shirts and sweatpants? What's the point in buying high quality makeup, just for it to spoil while you wear cheap stuff that's hard to put on and makes your face look cakey? Why own beautiful belongings just for them to never see the light of day?
š¹ Because using your best every day will show that you genuinely live well, instead of coming across as a phony when you meet the Joneses.
š¹ Because it's sad, after someone passes away, to see their fancy china, beautiful clothes, and other treasures in storage, rarely or never used, always waiting for an occasion that never came. If you won't use your best, who will? Life is short.
š¹ Because using your best everyday doesn't have to mean that special occasions will feel less special. Instead of only bringing out the good dinnerware for guests, use it everyday, but make occasions feel different with a spectacular floral arrangement, or with classical music on in the background instead of the TV. Wear your good foundation and mascara everyday, but wear a bolder makeup look for an event.
š¹ Because people's tastes change throughout the years. What if you buy something, keep it for later, and by the time later comes, you don't like it at all anymore?
š¹ Because special occasions still feel special even when you donāt use your best for them.
š¹ Because using beautiful items instead of settling for mediocrity elevates a normal day from feeling mundane to feeling decadent and luxurious.
Wear your good makeup. Wear your chic clothes. Put on your good skincare products. Doodle in your pretty notebooks. Burn your fancy candles. Spray your expensive perfume. Drink the expensive gifted wine. Eat the gourmet chocolates. Live in the now, not the uncertain future. Honour yourself by allowing yourself to use these special treasures.
Getting back to my fitness ritual!
Mindfulness helps my focus
Fitness helps my ADHD hyperactivity
Healthy eating manage my BMI
Love manage my emotional state
Reflection and revision helps my mind.
Embracing my feminine energy keeps me balance.
Do it for youā¦
Journal Prompts for Your Self-Esteem
The other day I was in the shower and I was thinking about things I could write about when I want to motivate myself or give myself a confidence boost. These are some of the ideas I came up with and I think they could be really beneficial and encouraging.
While thinking about these things, you may begin to doubt yourself or compare yourself to other people, but Iām telling you right now: DONāT DO THAT. It does not matter how big or small you think these things are. These prompts are meant to generate big and small reminders of how dope you are :)
1. What are 10 (or more) things you like about yourself?
2. What things do you want to do or try that can help you feel good about yourself?Ā For example, Iāve been considering trying out individual lashes and recently started looking into LHR. Also, going to the gym even if itās just for a walk on the treadmill. Literally, if you go once a week for fun just do something.
3. Think about some of your accomplishments in recent years. Describe them to your younger self and imagine how they would feel.
4. What are 10 (or more) things that you like about your life?
5. What are your energy givers? The big and small things that you do that make you feel joy? I loveee my yoga mat. I can lay on it, do nothing, and be happy. Itās that simple. Also washing my face in the morning :)
I want to EMPHASIZE that these things can be simple, everyday things. Do it for yourself without comparing yourself to other people. This is for you and you onlyyy.
how to stay motivated long-term
trust, me i know that long-term motivation and consistency is hard. long-term motivation might be difficult to maintain, but there are effective techniques to help you stay focused and determined. whether you're seeking personal ambitions, academic achievements, or professional success, here are some strategies to help encourage motivation:
understand the reason behind your goal ā does your goal contribute to personal growth or meaningful relationships? ā how does your goal impact others? ā is your goal meaningful to you? if your goal lacks meaning, it may be hard to maintain motivation.
positive and negative motivation motivation can come from different places ā positive motivation: the desire to experience pleasure ā negative motivation: the desire to avoid something (an outcome) both types of motivation have their place, so learn to recognise what type fits in where. (post on this coming soon)
set up systems use your initial motivation to set up structures: ā create routines, systems and habits that help you towards your goal even when your motivation fluctuates ā when your emotions wane, rely on these systems and disciplines to maintain momentum
break down goals ā tackle one goal at a time to avoid feeling overwhelmed ā set achievable milestones and celebrate each step forward ā keep the momentum going by focusing on manageable tasks
validate good work ā give yourself a little reward, or thank yourself, for completing hard tasks ā this reinforces motivation and encourages effort
remember--motivation isn't in a constant state, it ebbs and flows. these small tips will help to stay motivated. i'm going to provide more information in upcoming posts, and i will link them here once they are published.
luck on your journey ā¤ļø
How do I stop comparing myself to others and how can I feel fulfilled on my own without needing anyone else's validation?
hiii<3 i feel what you're going through, trust me i do. here are some of my tips that specifically worked for me + at the end i'll include some more recommended things to read/ watch.
how to stop comparing & feel fulfilled without needing anyone else's validation
how to stop comparing yourself:
start focussing and thinking about yourself more. lol ok i realise that may sound like "become self absorbed" but i suppose, to some extent, that is what im saying. you're becoming too interested in others' life around you if you find yourself comparing. its time to focus on you and up levelling yourself to the best version possible.
comparison = wanting their life style, yes? so when you find yourself comparing to others in your life, realise that its because you envy something that they have. maybe its money, popularity, prettiness, intelligence, etc. so its like a signal in your brain which is telling you: "i want this. but i dont have it." so now what can you do, work hard to get it.
focus on what you have. i read a quote once (i think its by Oprah Winfrey) and it goes: "if you focus on what you don't have, you'll always have less. but if you focus on what you do have, you'll always have more." instead of looking at other's lives and thinking "i dont have this, i dont have that", look at your own life and think "i have this, i have that."
feeling fulfilled without needing anyone else's validation:
self love. self love. SELF LOVE. self love will ALWAYS be the answer to this. learn to LOVE yourself. and if you dont, ask why!! i have a whole guide on how to develop self love HERE. Stop looking for love in others, GIVE YOURSELF THE LOVE FIRST!!
Itās you over them. Always. Always always always. Always choose you over them. If they want you to do something but you donāt, then you say āno. I will not do thatā itās scary? Oh boohoohoo, suck it up. Because if you are constantly doing stuff that others ask you to just for the sake of pleasing them, you are disrespecting yourself in the worst way. You are basically saying that what they want is more important than what i want and need. Ew. Donāt do that.
extra resources:
a guide to develop self love & confidence (by me)
vanilla's opinionš° edition 1: dealing with hate & not caring about what others think. (by me)
ways to stay unbothered (by @pastel-charm-14)
Self validation (by @prettieinpink )
Tam Kaur's youtube channel
Thewizardliz youtube channel
Food in the west nowadays is crazy because you can put it into two distinct categories.
The first is made up of foods that actually nourish you and your organs and the second is literal poison sold by conglomerates for the purpose of making money, and if you eat only category A you get treated like you either have an ED or you're a health nut but the general consensus is some perceived abnormality and if you can cook and eat only category A then you're a chef or a tradwife psyop (hello Nara Smith).
However if you eat mostly or only B then you're seen as standard and normal.
Then we have people that act like unless you sprinkle in category B foods into your diet (again poison) then your diet is ''unbalanced'' and too restrictive.
The kicker is that category B stuff isn't real food and doesn't even taste good compared to real food.
Remove health and weight from the conversation for a second a be real, Mcdonald's ''burgers'' for example taste like crap especially compared to a burger cooked well and made of actual beef, twinkies compared to a home made vanilla cake are gagworthy ( even without the comparison tbh).
Eating a diet of real food is the best bet in terms of health benefits and taste.
No you don't need this week's new superfood propped up by vapid influencers nor do you need to starve or cut out food groups.
Just eat real food.
Just eat real meat and real plants ( no need to be cutting out grains or starches either) , buy them in their raw forms and cook them yourself according to your body's needs and flavours you prefer.
You'll see infinitely better results than any restrictive diet, and your body will run so much better when UPF is not in it on a constant basis.)
The shadiest but best advice I can give a woman is Don't give men grace when it comes to not meeting your standards, the only time they willingly lower theirs is when they simply can't meet the standards of their type. I admire that about them and I respect it.
Maybe I'm just privileged and that's why I say this but good men exist, they're emotionally intelligent, financially responsible and even abundant, good looking and amiable.
They're out there, the icky redpill losers and chronically online cretins of the world are genuinely only online hiding away from life.
There are enough high quality men in the world for women to allow themselves to only entertain men who are good to them and are what they want.
The people trying to convince you otherwise have a vested interest in women keeping standards low because they are in a mating crisis and want women available to them.
Let princess treatment be the standard.
Tips For Marrying Properly Part 1
Never be a stay at home girlfriend:
This is just wasting time you could spend leveling up, networking building a beautiful resume, learning new skills and generally creating yourself and your ideal lifestyle.
The online poster girl for being a sahgf went from being in a villa to a studio apartment.
All it is, is performing labour for a man with no personal tangible benefits.
The stay at home girlies think they're spoiled but I've seen corporate girls be provided for with more luxury and rest than the girls claiming to rest in their femininity.
It is not like being a housewife ( which is a comparatively better option than being a stay at home gf), it is not traditional and upon relationship breakdown the woman receives generally nothing but stress and wasted labour.
Staying home as a woman is no joke and requires so much preparation and effort to avoid getting screwed over.
Some have argued that receiving room and board justifies being a stay at home gf but even the exploited slaves on the plantations of my native country received room and board and if you date the right men while working you'd still be getting the princess treatment so claiming that a trip to bali or miami and a birkin justifies wasting your life as a bang-maid does not compute.
I understand that the girls are tired and burnt out and want to be cared for but it is a thankless job that seldom leads to marriage which is the actual goal.
The actual 'trophy wives' work while single and date to marry, then stay home for a year or two with their husband's new legacy before going right back to their goals.
I have so much respect for women who like homemaking and I hate to see them exploited while getting scammed into thinking they're the ones benefitting.
Please learn from the mistakes of others.
Bisous, LuxuryLegalPrincess
Food in the west nowadays is crazy because you can put it into two distinct categories.
The first is made up of foods that actually nourish you and your organs and the second is literal poison sold by conglomerates for the purpose of making money, and if you eat only category A you get treated like you either have an ED or you're a health nut but the general consensus is some perceived abnormality and if you can cook and eat only category A then you're a chef or a tradwife psyop (hello Nara Smith).
However if you eat mostly or only B then you're seen as standard and normal.
Then we have people that act like unless you sprinkle in category B foods into your diet (again poison) then your diet is ''unbalanced'' and too restrictive.
The kicker is that category B stuff isn't real food and doesn't even taste good compared to real food.
Remove health and weight from the conversation for a second a be real, Mcdonald's ''burgers'' for example taste like crap especially compared to a burger cooked well and made of actual beef, twinkies compared to a home made vanilla cake are gagworthy ( even without the comparison tbh).
Eating a diet of real food is the best bet in terms of health benefits and taste.
No you don't need this week's new superfood propped up by vapid influencers nor do you need to starve or cut out food groups.
Just eat real food.
Just eat real meat and real plants ( no need to be cutting out grains or starches either) , buy them in their raw forms and cook them yourself according to your body's needs and flavours you prefer.
You'll see infinitely better results than any restrictive diet, and your body will run so much better when UPF is not in it on a constant basis.)
Level Up Harsh truth
The harshest truth about productivity and leveling up is that you do not have time to be chronically online.
Letās start with a simple calculation. You have 24 hours in a day, for peak cognitive function 9 of those must pass away in your bed leaving behind 15 hours which are then split into usually 8 hours of full time school or work and 7 hours free.
That 7 hours is all a person has for everything else, leveling up, fitness, study ( self led or otherwise), child or pet care or care for sick family members or whoever, socializing and whatever else.
There simply is no time for scrolling heavily without intention and thatās why successful people and well adjusted people seldom are chronically online and chronically online people are seldom well adjusted and successful.
Doom scrolling, hate watching, fandom discourse, consuming other peopleās lives and arguing with people online is absolutely not worth my time because my time is precious and limited and will be spent on things that matter.
The mute,block and not interested buttons are my best friends in online spaces and it cannot be any other way.
Your life and goals must be more important to you than internet strangers if you intend to win.
People you do not know and love do not get to waste your attention and time (achieving their own ends and goals in the process) at the expense of you.
Overconsumption and hyper materialism will not save you or level you up
Do you know why stanley cups have millions of followers lining up to get them and why all the girlies are constantly lining up for the next pink item?
Itās the exact same reason āāthat girlāā finds on amazon sell out immediately.
Because these items promise them a feeling and state of being they donāt already have through marketing both intentionally and otherwise.
Youāll find that whatever āāaesthetic findsāā you think you want arenāt really what you want.
What you want is what those items represent.
They are artifacts of being.
When you put the CEO of Target up a tax bracket to become āāthat girlāā what you really want is what you think she has.
Discipline,Good health with all the stereotypical markers of it, Good habits,Elegance, Financial stability and The ability to take your pick of everything and everyone.
You canāt buy the things you really want but you can develop them, and when you have them no one can take them away from you.
Iām not saying every purchase comes from having a void and a desire to own the qualities we observe in those that broadcast their ownership of these artifacts of being, but many of them are.
Buying everything in sight will not bring you closer to your goals and most of the people you admire started small and relied on improvisation and invention when they really felt like they absolutely needed a material item for their journey.
Spend your money on real investments: Education, Property, Stocks and High Quality Experiences
Currently in my "I don't give a fuck era." The era where I don't give a fuck about what anybody thinks of me. The only person that I value and trust is myself and I am gonna do whatever it takes to keep my mind peaceful. I am extremely selfish for myself and my energy and I'm gonna get highly selective with people who can get access to me. I am no longer going to allow some random idiots to affect my inner wellness without my conscious permission. I am gonna cut off anything from my life if it costs my inner peace. Period.