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SO MANY PEOPLE NEED TO UNDERSTAND THIS! Everyone deserves respect, at least as a human being.
Asking for help does not make you weak or selfish.
Why do you insist on carrying on a conversation with me when I'm clearing reading? I was reading when you interrupted. Nothing you've said has anything to do with me. I'm not encouraging you continue either verbally or non verbally. My face and body language clearly project annoyance. You get upset when your alone time is interrupted, but you see no problem interrupting mine. Respect goes both ways.
I'm sorry but I just HAD to pull this quote from the one shot I wrote.
"Oh good, Lucifer fucked him into a different language. Take that, depression."
I shouldn't be giggling as hard as I am but it's so lovely, I enjoyed writing that, I really did.
Don't get too excited..heathens- but I may be formulating a second chapter to the one shots "selfish"
Ya know...an mature one shot.
It'll be something involving Lucifer, Alastor, and Rosie.
This is my little selfish cat . Mostly inspired by Happy in FT , in the global design .
The last time.
The last time he and I spoke I told him about the brother in law of one of my close friends. He was in the hospital with sepsis and it was not looking good. I told him how I felt terrible for my friend and her husband, and how I wish there was something I could do to comfort them.
He asked me why I was bothered. He said I never cared about his struggles or his burdens, so why was I taking this personally? Furthermore, he told me that I was messed up enough myself that I didn’t have time or energy to worry about anyone else.
My friend’s brother in law subsequently died.
A Big Event
I was going to try to wait until closer to the actual anniversary to release a series of posts about being cut off. But then I realized it’s been all consuming for a few days and I need it out of my brain.
In the evening of October 20, 2017, I performed my daily duty of driving from home after deciding on a healthy meal option to a restaurant to pick up take out. From there I drove to the outskirts of town to the new shop he worked at to bring him lunch. I’d have to meet him in the parking lot of a coffee shop down the road, though, because he didn’t want any of his coworkers to see me.
I was still an embarrassment to him.
I got into his car, greeted him warmly and cautiously handed him his lunch . He glared at me, opened the bag, saw his food and then screamed “Stay the fuck away from me!!!”
I promptly got out of his car. Stunned. He kept the food of course.
I included the times he asked me sarcastically. You know, the days where he thought I may have had a day he would consider better than his.
I retrospect, even in the honeymoon stage, he was never too interested in finding out more about me.
Strange behaviour toward someone he professed to love.
Little things
You know, in the last 10 years I think I could count on one hand the number of times he asked me how my day was.
“my darling I love everything that is not mine you for example”
—
Blanca Varela, from The Blinding Star (tr. Sara Daniele Rivera & Lisa Allen Ortiz)
[Original: querido mío adoro todo lo que no es mío tú por ejemplo]
Here’s the things I forgot to post
Asexual Ollie
2. OH FUCK, WHAT HAPPENED!?
3. This random poem letter thing I did with the Will in a waffle image
4. My parents accidentally buy two Argos plushies because I told both of them to buy it
5. A WILL WOOD REFERENCE JUST ON THE SECOND DAY OF BEING IN JAPAN AGAIN!?
Me: I swear, if I have to keep going to the same restaurant for all of the days we’re here, I’m gonna start sleeping against the kitchen floor.
My future stepmom (aka the same Hamilfan tita): Why?
Me: Because It’ll become my own flaw for not getting the chance to follow my pattern of my own food choices. (Not exactly what I said)
Tw: sui implication, cursing
"You're being selfish"
I'm being selfish. IF I WAS BEING FUCKING SELFISH I WOULD HAVE ALREADY PUT A FUCKING GUN IN MY MOUTH A PULL THE FUCKING TRIGGER. You can call me anything you want but please don't call me selfish because it's taking all my fucking will power to even breathe for a second longer.
To be stupid, selfish, and have good health are three requirements for happiness, though if stupidity is lacking, all is lost.
Gustave Flaubert
However, unfortunately we are not all in this state of happiness, so we have a question and a new perspective. But if you ignore that, it's also easier.
It seems reasonable to posit that the assassination of the presidential candidate will have no influence on the current gun legislation.
Let us consider an alternative perspective. We may now be of the opinion that it would be beneficial for all members of society to procure firearms and ammunition in substantial quantities.
One might inquire as to why, if Project 2025 is to be implemented, it should not be accompanied by a robust resistance to deportations.
It is evident that criminal gangs are already armed. This observation does not pertain to the militias on the political right, but rather to Latin American and medieval gangs with American passports.
It would undoubtedly be entertaining to rid the country of a significant portion of its citizenry, deemed undesirable, if they were to be armed to the teeth.
Moreover, Trump himself has previously asserted that blood will flow if he is not elected. We assume that even if he is elected, he will not object to the shedding of blood.
Therefore, we call upon all liberals and Democrats, and we do not refer to members of the Democratic Party, but rather to those who stand behind the cause of democracy, to arm themselves.
Learning from history means that when the bad guys threaten violence and overthrow, the good guys have to be armed pacifists.
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There is, of course, a more prosaic approach: one must simply vote and choose reason over hatred. This will prevent the country from descending into a dictatorship.
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deleted my old acc so I’m reposting this
Thinking about itadori being selfish as ever since Sukuna possessed him he stopped kissing his girlfriend even going to the extreme of no sex or touching at all the lightest he could allow was a kiss on the check. I mean how dare he fucking be so selfish? No letting him play with this human Sukuna so desired to play with. I mean she prances around in this oversized shirt and Itadori Sukuna’s boxers like the curse hasn’t possessed her boyfriend. All he ever gets is a light kiss on the cheek and that’s enough to make Sukana go wild with desire to tear apart those pretty little thighs and make a huge mess... Why does Itadori have to be so self centered why can’t he fucking share?
See the beauty in life or see the ugly.
life is what you make it!
~I think I saw how similar we are and fell in love with what my eyes perceived. Another shard that I'm missing, another broken splinter, another piece of me. Such a selfish thing on my part, falling in love with the parts of myself that I found in you.~
-a poem of a new kind
Is Christ asking us to hate ourselves?
By Clinical Psychologist & Bible Researcher Eli Kittim 🎓
What is the goal of rebirth?
As a clinical psychologist, I will take a minute to explain the basic differences between our “true self” (that lies buried underneath all the cultural conditioning that we have undergone) and the “persona” or the mask that we wear to perform different tasks throughout our busy day. Carl Jung stressed that if there is no conscious assimilation of unconscious contents, then we will inevitably fail to integrate our lives and achieve wholeness. That’s because those who repress their feelings of guilt and shame, and lock them up inside a dark room within their unconscious, are essentially splitting off their personality into two compartments: the conscious and the unconscious mind. Jung warns that if people don’t get in touch with their unconscious life, but only identify with their persona, they’re bound to suffer psychological turmoil. In biblical terms, some people are so detached from themselves that they’re not even aware that they’re sinners (1 Jn 1:10).
From a scriptural perspective, we’re all sinners, with a propensity for evil. The ego that has been created throughout an individual’s history is part of what the Bible calls the “carnal”(sarkikos) or “fleshly” self (1 Cor. 3.1-3). This is the unregenerate self that is always self-seeking, self-serving, and self-absorbed. And it has all the evil inclinations that the Bible speaks of. This is not the “true self” which is created in the image of God (imago dei). This is the “false self” in the image of Adam, the first sinner. That’s precisely why we need a savior to liberate us from this “false self” system so that we can, once again, become like the pre-fall Adam. The only way to achieve this goal is through a conscious assimilation of unconscious contents, and then, in the process of reliving our past traumas and fears, we will be cured (Phil. 2:12). During this cathartic and therapeutic process, we ask Christ to forgive us and to take our load off our shoulders.
If you do that, an awesome miracle will occur and your whole life will change in an instant: “your grief will turn to joy” (Jn 16:30)! And you will experience moments of intense love: “a good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over” (Luke 6:38). You will also experience your “true self,” as if Christ himself had become your new identity (Gal. 2:20). And you will, for the first time, love yourself! You will also love others and fall madly in love with Christ. Your gratitude will become your prayer of thanksgiving. So, that’s the born-again experience in a nutshell!
Loving yourself doesn’t go against Christ’s teaching
Having laid the groundwork for understanding the two different types of self, I want to now explain which behaviors, thoughts, and emotions are healthy and appropriate to Christians, and which ones are unhealthy, inappropriate, and unchristian. The attitude of genuinely caring for oneself, accepting oneself (despite one’s shortcomings), and trusting oneself is essential not only for healthy psychological functioning but also for the Christian life. It is conducive to caring for others, accepting others, and trusting others. By contrast, hating oneself is obviously an abnormal state of affairs where one dislikes himself, sabotages himself, hurts himself, and, in some cases, even kills himself. As an illustration, the mass shootings in the US are cases in which the hate one has for one’s self is now extended to others. Bottom line, hating yourself is not a healthy attitude under any circumstances. It can also lead to various disorders (e.g. eating disorders and depression). This self-hate is often unconscious so that we don’t even realize that we dislike ourselves. Because it’s repressed in the unconscious, it’s often projected onto others, and we end up hating people without even knowing why. After all, if we don’t love ourselves at all, and we don’t even know what love is, how can we possibly attempt to love others, let alone God? How can we possibly love others if we hate ourselves? That’s precisely why self-hatred is not healthy at all, and should never be encouraged, whether in our psychological world or in our spiritual world. In fact, loving yourself (in the right way) is actually the goal of Christianity! Christianity is in the business of making lovers, not haters. A pianist practices his piano everyday. A guitarist practices his guitar everyday. A Christian ought to practice *love* everyday. Love is our goal and our most precious treasure in life. If we have love, we don’t need anything else.
1 John 4:8 writes:
He who does not love does not know God;
for God is love.
If it’s ok for God to love us, then why is it wrong for us to love ourselves? When God instructs us not to “love the world or the things in the world” (1 Jn 2:15), that’s a warning against loving our instinctual nature, that is, our desires, lusts, and passions, what Freud called the “id.” But loving the “carnal self” and loving the “genuine self” are two completely different things. We all need to be loved, to be cared for, to feel protected, and to feel worthy, rather than unworthy, unlovable, and unimportant. That’s precisely what God does during the regeneration process. He showers us with love and makes us feel special, worthy, important, and treats us like kings and queens. If you haven’t felt like that, you haven’t been reborn. Love is our currency, our lifeblood! 1 John 3:14 declares:
He who does not love abides in death.
1 John 4:16 summarizes Christian Theology thusly:
God is love, and he who abides in love
abides in God, and God abides in him.
Even the Old Testament urges us to “love the sojourner” (Deut. 10:19) and to “love the LORD your God” (Deut. 11:1). Romans 13:10 sums up love as the fulfillment of the law:
Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore
love is the fulfilling of the law.
Love is the greatest commandment (Matt. 22:36-40)! That’s precisely why “knowledge puffs up, but love builds up” (1 Cor. 8:1). Therefore, there’s a big difference between “selfish love” and “genuine love” (2 Cor. 6:6; 8:8). God only looks at our heart because that’s where love comes from. Galatians 5:14 commands people to “love your neighbor as yourself." But how can you love your neighbor if you hate yourself? Paul doesn’t say “hate your neighbor as yourself.” Rather, he explains that love is the fruit of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22):
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace,
patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness.
Thus, Paul urges us to cultivate love, to prune and water it daily so that it might grow. In Phil. 1:9, he writes:
it is my prayer that your love may abound
more and more, with knowledge and all
discernment.
Later, in Phil. 2:2, he exhorts his followers to stir up the gift that is in them:
complete my joy by being of the same mind,
having the same love.
In 1 Tim. 1:5, Paul reminds us that our mission is to awaken love from the bottom of our hearts:
the aim of our charge is love that
issues from a pure heart and a good
conscience and sincere faith.
Is Christ asking us to hate ourselves?
Many people misunderstand the Bible. When Christ uses hyperbole and says “If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, … such a person cannot be my disciple” (Lk 14:26), he doesn’t mean that we should hate our parents. He means that we should love them less than Christ (which is the 1st commandment)! The same goes for the “self.” We must love ourselves less than Christ. And we must also seek to transform and transcend our “carnal self” that is selfish, greedy, lustful, angry, envious, etc. Jesus is not saying that it’s good to hate the inner you, or to hate who you truly are. In fact, loving yourself (i.e. forgiving yourself and accepting yourself) is a prerequisite condition for loving others. How can you possibly love others if you hate yourself? Luke 9:23 is teaching us how to prepare the soil of our heart for the harvest of love. Just as when we avoid consuming unhealthy foods, we should also avoid certain unhealthy or toxic behavioral patterns. Jesus is not teaching you to hate yourself or to be suicidal. He is not saying that loving yourself is a heresy. On the contrary, Jesus teaches that we should stop feeding the “false self” who loves the things of the world, namely, lust, money, sex, power, competition, greed, envy, etc. And although it may sound counterintuitive, we actually gain control over our addictions through genuine self-love (2 Tim. 1:7):
God did not give us a spirit of timidity but a
spirit of power and love and self-control.
In Luke 14:25-27, Jesus is not preaching hate. He’s not saying “Hate your neighbors as yourself.” Or “Hate your family and yourself.” No. It’s not a hate-speech. The point he is trying to make is that we must make Christ our first priority. He must take first place in our life. In other words, he must be our greatest love, and we must love him more than our family and friends, and even more than life itself. So what he’s actually saying is that he who loves me less than family and friends cannot be my disciple because he loves others more than me (idols). That’s the point. Jesus is not preaching hate.
In John 12:25, Jesus is saying the exact same thing. He who loves his self more than Christ will eventually lose it. Conversely, he who loves his life less than Christ will find it (i.e. he will find his “true self” and life-eternal). Jesus doesn’t imply that you should hate yourself, your family and children. Jesus is not psychotic.
In 2 Timothy 3:1-5, Paul uses the term φίλαυτος (philautos), which means “selfish” or “self-loving” (i.e. narcissistic), and then lists all the traits associated with this selfish love (vv. 2-4):
lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful,
arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to
parents, ungrateful, unholy, unloving,
irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without
self-control, brutal, haters of good,
treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of
pleasure, rather than lovers of God.
Notice that all these characteristics refer to some character flaw that is based on selfish desires or pleasures. This is not the same as loving your “true-self” humbly and genuinely. Loving who you really are in Christ is actually necessary for spiritual growth. It is the purpose of our very existence and the goal of all our struggles. To be transformed into Christ means being transformed into love. In fact, during rebirth, a great love starts to flow within us, and we begin to love ourselves as we really are. We also fall madly in love with Jesus. So no one should be preaching hate. Christianity is all about love.
“Lovers of self” refers to those people for whom everything revolves around them, thereby showing a callous disregard for others. By contrast, loving yourself in a genuine, pure, and humble way, accepting and forgiving yourself for past mistakes, is actually a very healthy and godly endeavor. Loving who you really are is not the same as being selfish, nor does it mean that you love yourself more than God.
James 3:13-16 talks of jealousy and selfish ambition, not of forgiving and accepting *yourself* in Christ’s love. For example, James 3:14-15 uses the word ἐριθεία (eritheia), which means seeking rivalries, disputes, having ambition, etc. It could be construed as a form of self-seeking but it is not, strictly speaking, talking about the self. It is this type of quarreling that is demonic, not a genuine love for yourself. In other words, whenever these feuds arise, there is anarchy and evil. James 3:14-15 writes:
if you have bitter jealousy and selfish
ambition in your heart, do not be arrogant
and so lie against the truth. This wisdom is
not that which comes down from above, but
is earthly, natural, demonic.
Conversely, loving yourself in a genuine way is not demonic, but actually the goal of Christianity!
Conclusion
Love is our goal, our aim, and our modus operandi! Instead of practicing the commandments, which are just rigid behavioral patterns, we should be cultivating love in our hearts. Paul writes in 1 Cor. 13:1-5:
If I speak in the tongues of men and of
angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong
or a clanging cymbal. And if I have
prophetic powers, and understand all
mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have
all faith, so as to remove mountains, but
have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all
I have, and if I deliver my body to be burned,
but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is
patient and kind; love is not jealous or
boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love
does not insist on its own way; it is not
irritable or resentful.
Elsewhere, he says (1 Cor. 13:13):
So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but
the greatest of these is love.
1 Cor. 14:1 doesn’t say “make hate your aim.” Rather, it says “Make love your aim.” In Col. 3:14, Paul equates our new identity with love, and urges us to fully immerse ourselves in it:
And above all these put on love, which
binds everything together in perfect
harmony.
We are to seek love in every situation, at every moment! Loving ourselves is the prerequisite for loving others. Love is our goal, not our enemy. The goal is to love ourselves in Christ. Meaning that when we receive Christ’s new identity, we begin to love ourselves for the very first time, and we also stop hating ourselves for the very first time. Christ’s love is genuine and pure. It’s part of the fruit of the spirit. This love we must pursue. This is who we are in the image of God. For how can we possibly love others if we hate ourselves?
I’m in a Unicorn Hunter Spotting group on fb (unicorn hunters are cishet couples who aggressively try to find a queer woman for their “third” and treat her like a sex toy rather than a legit partner, it’s fuckin gross) and this got posted. I have legit never been so creeped out in my life.
Bonus: literally ALL of the creepiest unicorn hunters I have encountered/seen are DD/LG. Not helping with how much DD/LG skeeves me out. *shudder*
“We just want a housewife”- that’s called hiring a maid.
