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When I used to sit and fantasize about my recovery, I would imagine daintily trying bites of fear foods.
My recovery didn't look like that. It was crying at my first taste of red meat in 6 months. It was refusing to eat in the dining room. It was planning the exact right time to eat breakfast so my inlaws wouldn't see. It was being disappointed by every food I used to love and finding new ones. It was crying when I broke my jeans and the bravery to buy the bigger size. It was getting to know myself outside the aesthetic and realising after it all I don't like food that much.
Bio oil is amazing
I decided to finally forgive myself. I went out and got myself some bio oil. It's made for scars and stretchmarks. I have plenty of scars but the only ones that bother me are the self harm ones.
I've been putting bio oil on twice a day for a week (closer to a week and a half). I can see them melting before my eyes. The worst of them, burns that had me in the ER, are a lot paler and less raised. The cuts on my legs are gone on one side.
some more playlists for y’all!! These two have very similar energies 💗
Insan ban'ne ke liye sabse pehle ye laazim hai, ke khudka Insan hona tasleem kiya jaaye. Apne aap ko, zameeni makhlooq samjha jaaye jiski zaruriyat hain, jiske ehsasat hain, aur jazbaat. Zindagi me sabse mushkil daur mujhay wo laga hai, jahan mai iss haqeeqat se bhag rahi thi, ke mujhay baaz cheezon/logon ki zarurat hai. Wajah jo bhi ho, lekin issay bhagna aksar mushkilein badha deta hai. Agar koi cheez aapko andar se pathreela mehsoos karwati hai, wo bhi aise patthar jinme har waqt zalzalay ki si larzish ho, to wo apne jazbaat par pabandi lagana hai. Ye do mukhtalif baatein hai. Awwal ye ke jazbaat ko mehsoos na karne ki saee ki jaaye, aur doosri ye ke jazbaat ko mehsoos karke, unko apni ikhlaqi zindagi par haavi na honay diya jaaye. Pehla amal aapko nafsiyati taur par kamzor kar dega. Lekin doosra, aapko insani mazbooti dega, jahan aap kamzor hai aur jaante hain, ke ye kamzori aapki fitrat me hai. Kisi baat par, kisi ke liye gussa, chidh, jalan, muhabbat, rashq wagairah jaise jazbaat mehsoos karna aapko as a human kamzor nahi banata. Haan, iss gussay ko nafrat nahi banne dena, darguzar aur muafi ka intekhab karna hai aapne, jab gussa khamoshi se chhatne diya jaaye. Kisi ke liye chidh aapko bad-ikhlaq na banaye. Na hi jalan Hasad me tabdeel ho, balke usko aap Qadr par eimaan aur baaz dafa islah ki wajah banayen. Kisi shay/shakhs ke liye aapki muhabbat junoon aur baaese zalalat na banay. Qirdar ka aur Shariat ki hudood ka ehtram karke aap uspar Sabr karna seekh jaayen. Jazbaat ko waqt den, kuch lamhat alag se nikal kar unpar royen, itminan karen ke ye waqti hain, aur saari umr aapke saath nahi rahenge, aur na hi aap inko mehsoos karke gunahgaar ban jayenge. Inka hona aapke insan honay ki sabse badi daleel hai. Isliye sabse awwal, khudko insan ke taur par tasleem karen.
~ mashriqiyyah ✍🏻
Fat people deserve better.
We are not repulsive. We are not vile. We are not appalling.
We are people.
If my existence "promotes obesity"? Good!
You want to know why?
I am not promoting the idea that someone should become obese. I am not going to attempt to police someone else's body and lifestyle like sizeist people do.
I am promoting the idea that people of all sizes are deserving of the bare minimum of basic human respect.
This should not be a radical idea. This should not be something we have to fight about.
99% of the time? Being fat is not a choice. And you know what? Even if it was - even if I was shoving big macs into my greasy fucking maw every 2 hours?
I would still be deserving of basic decency.
I would still be deserving of proper medical care that takes into account things other than my size and diet.
I would still be deserving of comfort, of clothing that fits.
You want to know the worst part of all of this?
Fat kids deserve better, and all too often, they don't get it.
Fat kids deserve to be able to be active without being mocked for the way their body moves.
Fat kids deserve to be seen as children rather than medical problems that need solving.
Fat kids deserve clothing that fits them and makes them feel good about themselves.
Fat kids deserve to eat, and to eat good food.
Fat kids deserve to eat cake at birthday parties like everyone else.
Fat kids deserve to go trick-or-treating like all the other kids.
Fat kids deserve love. Fat kids deserve respect.
Fat kids deserve a proper childhood without having to pay a toll of trying to change their bodies.
Fat kids deserve acceptance for their bodies as they are and as they will be - not pleasantries about how they'll grow up to be skinny, so they don't need to learn to love themselves before then.
Fat people deserve better.
The deeper we go into our shadows and find acceptance, the more light we can hold.
The more light we hold, the more we come face to face with our unconscious.
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We are not, nor should we be, immutable.
All things change,
The seasons as the earth spins round the sun,
The wind as air heats and cools,
The symphony of sounds as day turns to night.
We are no different,
We can and should change,
And yet we rail against it.
We hold this notion that must alway know who we are and thus must never change,
Yet we still know the earth as the seasons change,
We still know the air as the winds change,
We still know the songs of day and night no matter how they change.
To know yourself does not mean you cannot change,
But simply that you must accept change knowing that regardless it is still you.
The Power of Self-Love: Embracing Your Inner Light
Shaina Tranquilino
August 17, 2023
In a world that constantly bombards us with expectations, comparisons, and judgments, it's easy to forget the most important relationship we will ever have—the one with ourselves. Self-love is not just a trendy buzzword; it is a fundamental pillar for personal growth and happiness. Let's explore why practicing self-love is crucial and how it can transform our lives.
1. Understanding Self-Love:
Self-love is often misunderstood as being selfish or narcissistic. However, it goes beyond superficial vanity. It is about accepting ourselves fully, embracing our strengths and weaknesses, and treating ourselves with kindness and compassion. It involves recognizing our inherent worthiness as human beings and prioritizing our mental, emotional, and physical well-being.
2. Nurturing Our Mindset:
Cultivating self-love begins by reshaping our mindset. We need to challenge negative self-talk, replace self-criticism with self-compassion, and affirm our own worthiness. By acknowledging our achievements, setting realistic expectations, and celebrating small victories, we foster a positive mindset that fuels self-esteem.
3. Practicing Self-Care:
Self-care is an essential component of self-love since it involves nourishing our mind, body, and soul. Taking care of ourselves allows us to replenish our energy reserves and maintain balance in life's chaos. Whether it's engaging in activities we enjoy, maintaining healthy boundaries, getting enough sleep or seeking professional help when needed—self-care is an act of love towards ourselves.
4. Setting Healthy Boundaries:
Learning to set boundaries is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships both personally and professionally. By establishing what we are comfortable with and communicating effectively, we protect ourselves from unnecessary stressors or toxic dynamics that drain our energy levels. Prioritizing our well-being reinforces the importance of self-love and ensures we surround ourselves with positivity.
5. Embracing Imperfections:
Perfectionism is an enemy of self-love, constantly pushing us to chase unattainable standards. Instead, let's embrace our imperfections as a testament to our humanity. Recognize that mistakes are stepping stones towards growth and understand that self-worth is not contingent upon external validation or achievements. By embracing authenticity, we liberate ourselves from the pressure to conform and foster self-acceptance.
6. Practicing Gratitude:
Gratitude is a powerful tool for cultivating self-love. Taking time each day to acknowledge the things we appreciate about ourselves helps shift our focus from what's missing in our lives to what we already have. By expressing gratitude for our unique qualities, talents, and experiences, we develop a deeper sense of self-love and contentment.
Self-love is not a destination but rather a lifelong journey—an ongoing commitment to nurturing ourselves physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It allows us to move through life with confidence, resilience, and compassion for others. When we prioritize self-love, we become more resilient in facing challenges, form healthier relationships, and unlock our true potential. So let's embark on this transformative path today—embracing our inner light and celebrating the beautiful individuals we truly are!
Embracing the Power of Acceptance: Unlocking Happiness and Inner Peace
Shaina Tranquilino
September 27, 2023
In a world filled with constant change, challenges, and diversity, acceptance has become more crucial than ever before. It is not only about accepting others for who they are but also about embracing ourselves unconditionally. Acceptance goes beyond mere tolerance; it delves into understanding, empathy, and ultimately leads to personal growth and harmony in relationships. In this blog post, we will explore the transformative power of acceptance and how it can bring us closer to genuine happiness and inner peace.
1. Acceptance of Self:
Self-acceptance forms the foundation of a fulfilling life. We often find ourselves chasing unrealistic standards or comparing our lives with others', leading to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. However, true contentment lies in accepting ourselves as imperfect beings with unique strengths and weaknesses. By embracing our flaws and celebrating our achievements, we cultivate self-love, resilience, and confidence.
2. Acceptance of Others:
Accepting others involves recognizing their individuality without judgment or prejudice. This means acknowledging that everyone has their own journey, beliefs, opinions, and experiences that shape them. When we learn to accept others for who they are instead of trying to mold them into our idealized version, we foster a sense of belongingness, open-mindedness, and promote healthy relationships based on mutual respect.
3. Embracing Change:
Change is inevitable in life, causing discomfort and resistance at times. However, by accepting change as an integral part of existence rather than fighting against it, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and opportunities for growth. The ability to adapt gracefully allows us to navigate through life's uncertainties while maintaining emotional stability.
4. Cultivating Emotional Well-being:
Acceptance plays a pivotal role in cultivating emotional well-being by teaching us how to manage negative emotions effectively. Instead of denying or repressing our feelings, we acknowledge them without judgment. By accepting and processing our emotions, we can gain clarity, heal from past wounds, and foster emotional resilience.
5. Letting Go of Control:
Acceptance also means relinquishing the need for control over everything. We cannot change every circumstance or person in our lives, but we have full control over how we respond to them. By embracing acceptance, we learn to let go of attachment to outcomes and surrender to the flow of life. This allows us to find peace amidst chaos and reduces unnecessary stress and anxiety.
In a world that often emphasizes perfectionism and conformity, practicing acceptance is a powerful act of liberation. It frees us from self-imposed limitations, fosters genuine connections with others, and enables personal growth. Accepting ourselves and those around us helps create a more compassionate society built on empathy, understanding, and love.
By embracing acceptance as part of our daily lives, we embark on a journey towards happiness, inner peace, and fulfillment. Remember that acceptance does not mean condoning harmful actions; it means recognizing the inherent worth of every individual while working towards positive change when necessary. So let's embrace acceptance wholeheartedly and unlock the transformative power it holds within us all!
The Courage to Be Disliked: Embracing Authenticity
Shaina Tranquilino
February 16, 2024
In a world that often values conformity and seeks approval, it takes immense courage to be disliked. We are constantly bombarded with societal expectations, social media pressures, and the fear of being judged by others. However, embracing the courage to be disliked can be liberating, empowering us to live life on our own terms and foster genuine connections with those who appreciate our authentic selves.
1. The Illusion of Social Approval:
Society conditions us to seek validation from others as a measure of success or happiness. This constant pursuit of acceptance can lead to compromising our true identities, dreams, and desires. The courage to be disliked requires acknowledging that not everyone will like us or agree with our choices – and that's perfectly okay.
2. Self-Acceptance and Inner Freedom:
When we embrace the courage to be disliked, we cultivate self-acceptance. Instead of seeking external validation, we learn to validate ourselves based on our own values, beliefs, and passions. This newfound inner freedom allows us to pursue what genuinely fulfills us without being confined by societal norms or the fear of judgment.
3. Authenticity Breeds Connection:
When we have the courage to be disliked, we attract people who value authenticity rather than superficiality. By staying true to ourselves, we create meaningful connections with individuals who accept us for who we are, flaws and all. Genuine relationships are built upon mutual understanding, respect, and acceptance – traits that flourish when authenticity is embraced.
4. Growth through Criticism:
The courage to be disliked doesn't mean disregarding constructive criticism altogether; it means having the resilience to differentiate between valuable feedback and baseless negativity aimed at discouraging us from being true to ourselves. Constructive criticism helps us grow personally and professionally while allowing us to maintain our authentic identity.
5. Inspiring Others:
By embodying the courage to be disliked, we become a source of inspiration for others who may be struggling to break free from societal expectations. Our authenticity can encourage them to embrace their true selves, ultimately creating a ripple effect that promotes individuality and diversity in society.
The courage to be disliked is the key that unlocks the door to a life lived authentically. It liberates us from the shackles of seeking approval, empowers us to embrace our uniqueness, and fosters genuine connections with like-minded individuals. When we have the audacity to stay true to ourselves, we inspire others to do the same, fostering an environment where everyone can thrive as their authentic selves. So let go of the fear of being disliked and step into a life filled with freedom, growth, and fulfillment.
i am finally feeling again.
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Validation
🌟 As little babies, and then toddlers, our lives depend on validation. We need others to mirror and reflect what we feel, to know that each emotion is normal. We crave an explanation and mediation of these strange new sensations inside us—feelings. 💓
But if our surroundings never provided such validation or weren't capable of giving it, our need to feel seen and know that we are normal as we are faces a significant obstacle. 😢
However, my friend, it's never too late to learn to understand and believe to your body, your sensations, and your emotions, no matter how strange or strong they might feel. Even if they seem out of control, it might be because they, and the little you, haven't been seen for too long. 🥺
Upon learning to listen to ourselves, we first encounter some intense stuff. But with a tiny flame of hope and compassion, step by step, we might find relief—which is valuable for every part of your life that follows. 🌱 Sending you soft, loving validation, and know that with all your unique and different parts, you are normal as you are. To exist is to be a normal part of this life, just as you are. 💖 🌈🌸
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