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What advice would you give 21 year old you?
Everything changes beyond absolute recognition
I found this picture a while ago. Idk why but it just fills me up with joy. The dog is so happy
puppies and potty training
I was just thinking how lucky we are with Cosmia. She's not even eight weeks and she came to us potty trained. She goes right away when we take her out. I feel bad because I know a lot of people are struggling with this right now, and I remember what that was like with Shoko. I was thinking how good Cosmia's been and that I hope she keeps it up when I walked out of my room and guess who peed on the floor? Wait for it... Shoko! I have to laugh. This is how it goes. Sometimes they're perfect angels and sometimes they're almost a year old and their little sister is more potty trained than they are.
I don't know who needs this but If they ghosted you or dropped you, that means they don't want you in their lives. But you keep thinking about them. You shouldn't. You can either forget about them and move on, you can even keep them in the back of your mind. or, the bad option for most, you can mope forever and torture yourself. But the important question is, what would they want you to do. If they're the ones who left your life, and want nothing to do with you, why would they want you to have anything to do with them.
I just used my aac app to talk to my boss after work instead of forcing myself to talk when I was nonverbal. I didn't even need to explain what I was doing and she understood with no issues. It really does get better :)
thank you *bows*
May 2020 Illustrations ヽ(• ‿ •)ノ
Forgive yourself for the times you couldn’t see your own beauty
Xoxo, <3 =)
Xoxo, SIS <3 =)
The Lovers frequency, it Loves me too
xoxo, SIS <3 =)
My body is tired, but my soul is singing. It's hard for me, but I continue to work towards my happy future.
this is it. this the life i have been dreaming about. i have been chewing down guilt, swallowing anger, biting back sobs, clawing at hope, and gnawing my way through the past four years; i made it. because the world didn't end when i was 13, it's beginning at 17 <3
it just hit me. it finally just hit me. i start university in two months. i am an adult in forty-two days. i will have a job very soon, my provisional licence sooner. i moved out a fortnight ago. it’s a new year in two days.
Something I posted on my Instagram yesterday:
— how my life has changed in 2019
So I promised to make a caption about this, and while I’m here right now listening to the Dear Evan Hansen Soundtrack and crying about it, I decided to finally write it all down. I have always been rather open about my private life on this account, because I like to be honest and true and I’d like people to know me as I truly am. One thing I mentioned a few times but never went into detail about is my mental condition. I have social anxiety and I’ve probably had it all my life (according to my parents) but it got worse during my early teenage years, due to a toxic friend (according to my therapist). I’ve only come to admit this condition to myself about two years prior. I got a therapist and I’ve been in therapy ever since with sessions every once in a while and it did help me a lot. What helped me even more though was a fresh start, which is what leads me to this year.
At the beginning of this year my ex boyfriend of two years broke up with me. I haven’t realized how much I attached myself to him and relied on him until I was truly on my own again, and god did it help me to get more independent and myself again. A few months later I graduated, so once again one chapter of my life that was behind me. I had to get into university. But before that I had months to find myself, and god did this summer make me happy and confident. I went to see my therapist more often again and he encouraged me to take more risks (risks as in talking to people more often, forcing myself out of my shell, take the anxiety with me and push through it) and I did. I also spend a lot of time reading and painting/drawing which helped me, too, because it calms my nerves and helps me escape my life for a bit.
University started and I knew no one. Awful conditions for someone with social anxiety, great for someone who’s fighting it. I’m still struggling with making friends to this day, but I am learning and I can see and appreciate the progress I’m making. I try to go out more often and take risks and text people even though I’m terrified. I try to go to people I know from class and talk to them, even if it’s just “hi” and honestly it makes me feel powerful, because finally I’m not just letting the fear push me down but instead I’m pushing back, fighting with all my might, even if that might is just a shy “hello, how are you today?”. I try to go out more often, to parties or even on dates or trips from my university. I show up to my classes and lectures as much as I can. I even go to the loo in the middle of class and raise my hand to participate even though I have only known my classmates for a few months instead of years. It’s baby steps, but it’s something. I’ve still got a long way to go but I’m working on it and I know eventually I will get there. This year is solid proof for that, and I’m so incredibly thankful for everything and everyone that helped me get where I am today.
Another thing that changed besides my anxiety is how I view myself. I used to dislike me and my looks like any broody teenager. I’ve grown up. I appreciate my body and everything it does for me. I try to keep it healthy and changed to a mainly plant based diet and go for a lot of long walks. I’ve lost a lot of weight through that, which is good if you keep in mind that I was on the cusp of being overweight for quite some time. I’m now a healthy average weight for my height. I feel so much better and more beautiful and healthy.
So as you see, a lot of things changed this year for the better for me and even though there was a lot of stress and anxiety and heartbreak, it was absolutely and completely worth it and I couldn’t be more grateful.
You will be found, hopefully, and most importantly, by yourself.
doing my damnedest to free myself of the “just gotta get through this week” “only x more days til the weekend” mindset & learn to appreciate each day for whatever it is lest i be driven to madness
"It Gets Better"?
While I agree it is important to reach out to teens being bullied and belittled by peers, sometimes even by family members, teachers, or religious leaders, we must never lose sight of the fact that this age group is not unique to being the object of bigotry, hatred, and intolerance, nor are they the only ones who feel alone, isolated amidst a sea of people: middle-aged people, especially those of the LGBT community, are at greater risk for depression and suicide than their peers, and the elderly as a whole in this country are too often marginalized, ignored, abused physically, verbally, and economically. Why? Because our society, especially the LGBT community, glorifies youth to the exclusion of all others. A social revolution may be on the horizon when the "baby boomers" realize the power they can wield and begin to do so. They, too, need to be assured that it gets better—before it's too late, before they make it better on their terms!
reminder that you’re worth a lot more then you’ll ever realize
it gets better
people can and will help you
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I feel stuck, between who I used to be and who I want to be.
It’s funny, I thought that I was better than the substance - I didn’t think I would get addicted in complete honesty. I thought I had full control.
I did. At first.. But somewhere along the ride, it was easier to jump in the passenger seat and let things unfold.
I feel very alone in my struggle. In the sense that it’s like I’m slowly waking up to my life as it has become in the last few years of full blown mindless addiction.
Addiction is lonely, but it’ll trick you into thinking you have all the friends in the world.
People don’t wait around for you to fix all your problems and finally start realizing your potential. They’ve got lives to live and shit to do!
The ones that do wait around, hold them so so close.
I’ve got a few irrational and unhelpful ruminating thoughts in my head. I’m actually trying to tell them “no”. It feels stupid, but in my head I literally have to go “This is not productive. I need more evidence for this thought. I will just worry about tangible problems in front of me and not be anxious until I need to be”
You know how lame I feel doing that? I just want to roll my eyes at myself. *rolls eyes*
But it’s also working. LIKE I AM DOING IT PEOPLE, I am rewiring the brain!! You’re seeing it live! Grab some popcorn and enjoy the show because I am about to evolve into someone really fucking great!!!
Feeling like I’m failing at everything or that I’m delusional or that I am going about this (life) all wrong. Worried constantly about what others think about me. Trying to be ~zen~ and trust in what I am doing.
Holding space for these feelings and carrying them with me while still living my life. Embracing that I won’t feel this way forever and that it’s normal to go through periods of doubt & insecurity.
What a concept!!!
Friendly reminder to myself - if you are spending all this time worrying about your life & yourself, imagine that everyone is probably doing the same about their lives and selves. They don’t have time to be thinking about that cringe comment I made!
An affirmation for me lately: I welcome however my life unfolds because I trust in my ability to be resilient, kind, and persevere.
Not everyone is going to like me and that’s okay too!!!! I am not less than!
Here’s a thought.. Maybe they’re the asshole?
Blah blah BLAH BLAH.
Each day is a new day. Some days are better and brighter. Some days, not so much. But each day is just one little piece of it all. And I want to live these days. At least for a little longer.